Lavender19 always fill alone by myself

[Lavender19]

Hi I am married but get no support from him and all I think about is not doing something wrong to make him mad at me but that's all I do he stay mad at me and I stay mad at him it's hard for me to stay happy life is hard for me with him and two teenage and a five month old

[Agora1]

Lavender19, you have found a safe place to escape to. A place where no judgment is

ever made, no one is put down. Welcome to this amazing support group. I'm glad

you found us. We care. xx

[Lavender19 in reply to Agora1]

Thank you I need a place to talk

[PNIAuthor60]

Let me be clear - you are not responsible for your husband's behaviour.

I am concerned for you and the impact on your children. What sort of support do you have in family or friends?

Here, we listen and share our own experience, strength and hope and make each other's days a little brighter. It is a wonderful place - a sanctuary where everyone is free to be their true, authentic selves.

Welcome Lavender19

[Lavender19 in reply to PNIAuthor60]

I have no one on my side a lot of people hurt me in my life because they did not understand me so I don't have contact with my family and I lost all my friends because they talk about me behind my back sometime to my husband, he always tell me to ack normal I talk to much or I'm just weird I know I am I raised myself

[hypercat54 in reply to Lavender19]

I agree with pni. You are not responsible for how your husband reacts - he chooses to behave like this and it sounds like abuse to me. If he wants you to be different then he should have married someone else! x

[Lavender19 in reply to hypercat54]

Thank u now that I know I'm not alone I am going to do my best to be me and be happy for myself and my kids

[PNIAuthor60 in reply to Lavender19]

Sadly, I have known how it feels to have no one on your side. You must become your own best friend and make it a priority to be well and do it to the best of your ability. Take a deep breath and take whatever steps are necessary because your life is important and your life is important to all three children.

In fact, how you manage your difficult circumstances will teach your children how to manage similiar difficulties later in their lives. So focus, Lavender19 on what you can do instead of what isn't working. You have a choice on how you respond to your husband, choose wisely.

You are no longer alone here, this is an incredible community of caring, supportive, compassionate souls who truly care to see each other do well.

[Lavender19 in reply to PNIAuthor60]

Thank u those are the kindest words I have heard in a long time

[hypercat54 in reply to Lavender19]

That was a great reply by pni x

[PNIAuthor60 in reply to Lavender19]

Your welcome, dear, I mean every single word from the bottom of my heart

[Esther228]

Hi there,

I’m so sorry that you are not feeling supported. I bet you are super busy with your little five-month-old baby and teenagers. Have you tried to schedule a date night? I found that my husband and I really enjoy getting out together at least once a week; we’d go to a movie, out to dinner, or plan a trip to the park, museum, or just to go visit friends for a while. It is always nice to keep investing in your relationship, right? Doing activities together also gives us something new to talk about. Do you have shared interests?

I’ve also found a lot of help in my life through reading. There are so many great books written that are very encouraging. Most of the books that I read are written by Christians, so they offer me a good perspective. One of the books that come to my mind is “The Power of a Praying Wife” by Stormie Omartian. Have you read that book? Or “Boundaries” by Drs. Cloud and Townsend? These types of books have been so helpful to me.

I’m sure thinking of you and hope that maybe this information will be of some help to you, too.