betrayal trauma

[mrsmiss]

recently experiencing this and based on resources i've found online they say its similar to PTSD. I have little to no support system so here I am. Dealing with nightmares, no appetite, panic attacks, crying bouts, feelings of helplessness. any resources you can suggest is greatly appreciated

[Journey2Wholeness]

Hi there

Welcome to the community. I'm new myself. Sorry for your pain, I get it. Really I do. There's a few things I do that help me. Truly help. Hopefully these resources will work for you too.

Dr. Caroline Leaf (communication pathologist and cognitive neuroscientist). Here's the links to her website and YouTube channel:

drleaf.com/

youtube.com/user/DrCaroline...

Essential Oils have been a must-have for me. Every. Single. Day. You can purchase them online (Amazon or certain EO/health websites) along with a diffuser. There's essential oil jewelry too! I have both. Anyways, here are some of the best oils for anxiety, stress, depression, fear...

Bergamot

Cedarwood

Chamomile

Clary Sage

Frankincense

Geranium

Lavender

Marjoram

Vetiver

Ylang Ylang

There are weighted blankets to help as well. Although I have yet buy one. Hope to have one soon, though. And I HOPE you start feel better very soon.

Hugs and blessings

~Jannette

[Tealribbon]

Like Journey, I am also new. I'm so sorry you are hurting. Panic attacks are terrifying. Something that helps me is talking with others who understand. Like here. It can be tempting to isolate but then we stay in our head. If u can't eat, try Ensure. At least you will get some nutrients. I hope that helps some. I do understand . Sending hugs and prayers.

[Tillyray]

Hi. I'm sorry to hear you are suffering, I understand what that feels like and I know too how lonely it feels. I'm glad you have reached out on here and I hope you find it as helpful as I have.. There is help available from various sources, so please continue to look, and you will find what works for you. Remember you are not alone. Xx

I have been on a very long journey in both my physical and mental health. In caring for my mental health, like you, I realised many things about myself and how and why I was affected with depression, anxiety, and most recently I learned I have ptsd.

I discovered a book called, Complex PTSD: From surviving to thriving by Pete Walker. It's for anyone with a childhood history of trauma, and reading from the reviews, it has changed peoples lives. I have hope that it will be the important change needed for me in my journey of recovery. Pete Walker also has a website pete-walker.com

For my anxiety I am learning tapping, and the book, The Tapping Cure by Roberta Temes has step by step of all the areas you may need to 'tap' for relief from anxiety, ptsd and phobias etc. I find this helps me in the moment of panic and anxiety episodes.

I'm also trying to focus my mind 'in the present moment'. Mindfulness really stops the mind wandering but takes practice. I have sticky notes up in all the places I lose my focus, washing up- focus only on the washing up, no other thoughts. Watching TV, in the bathroom etc. "Be mindful"...

Also deep breathing techniques calm and relax me; Breathe in for 4 seconds, hold for 7, let out for 8. Hold your stomach as you do this to really be taking deep breaths in from there.

Brene Brown is a self-help author who I came across on YouTube. She also has a seminar on Netflix.

I am very conscious now of what I need and importantly of what i dont need. I try to keep myself as ok as I can. I know I'm on a journey of recovery, which may be life long? But having the knowledge I have is making it easier for me. The setbacks I had have been so hard, and so I make a point of only involving myself with the positive and uplifting. I realise things happen in life which can't always be avoided, but as a rule in my life I stay away from drama and negativity, and I am kind to myself🙂.. You owe it to yourself to care about you. Do all the helpful things for yourself that you can.You deserve to be as well and happy as you can be.

Sending love xx

[Journey2Wholeness in reply to Tillyray]

Good morning, Tillyray

Wow! Your advice for MrsMacabee encourages me too. Thanks! Hope you have a good day too.

[LilyAnnepuppy in reply to Tillyray]

I love Brene Brown. Vulnerability and shame are powerful forces within every human being. And she doesn’t pull any punches in discussing these issues. Think I’ll watch her TED Talk again (the second one I like the best). Thanks for reminding me. Lynne

[mrsmiss in reply to Tillyray]

Thank you for all this. It's comforting to have a community of people who have gone through/are going through similar things. This is all very new to me and I'm trying to find any way possible to get past it. Appreciate your advise and kind words

[Tillyray in reply to mrsmiss]

You're very welcome❤

I've always found that having the understanding of others is a great support, and this site really helps so much with that. Sending love xx

[NeuronerdDoaty in reply to Tillyray]

I like Peter Walker.

[NeuronerdDoaty]

You have to focus on self. Focus on eating right, rest/sleep, daily gentle exercise and monitoring your boundaries with people. It’s a time of mourning so treat yourself as such. This is all about your physical, mental and emotional health. That’s your focus. We’ll be here for you. You aren’t alone.

Doaty

[Gentlespirit12345]

I totally get it. I'm fortunate to have some support from my church family otherwise I'd be in the same place. Do u have a church home ? You can see about a counselor there are ones who have a sliding scale. I'm dealing with B. Trauma now too on top of ptsd and depression. Stay gr0unded and be careful cuz your mental and physical health will be affected by this. Music helps and writing helps some.