Lonely grandma

[taos57]

I am new to this group and seeing such support and kindness in replies shines a light on my day. I have been having a very difficult time of late because of family matters. All my siblings and my parents have passed and I am the last left in my birth family and now I feel alienated from my adult children and some of the grandchildren. Just feeling very sad and alone. I'm glad I found this safe place. Thanks for having me.

[Laniben]

Hello, yes there’s a lot of support on here and a friendly lot of people

[Laniben in reply to Laniben]

....Who understand each other.

My name is Sam x

(Sorry there’s 2 messages I pressed send before I’d finished typing 😊)

[taos57 in reply to Laniben]

Thank u, happy to be here

[Hidden]

Hi and welcome...

This is a great place to say how you feel and find you are not alone...

Glad you found us 🌺🌺 x x

[taos57 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much

[Hidden]

Oh my goodness how I can relate to you....have two sons that have nothing to do with us...both have a child...missing out on that but I am grateful for my 2 daughters who are so supportive of me....

I lost my mom 30 years ago and sadly my step father, brother and sister are toxic....

I can feel your pain..if you need me I'm more than here for you...

Dump trucks of love, peace, light, joy and groovy hugs!

[taos57 in reply to Hidden]

We replied to each other earlier and I am so grateful. I just might private message you soon. Today, heading to the high school with my 14 yr old grandson that I'm raising. But thank you for sharing

[Hidden in reply to taos57]

No worries I can wait...yes we must get to know one another...have a whole lot in common.... by the way I'm 61.....

Dump trucks of love, peace, light, joy and groovy hugs!

[Hidden]

Welcome to this group of very friendly people. I’m fairly new too. I’m a 66 yr old grandma, married, have 2 sons plus grandkids close. We have good relationships but for some reason I’m lonely and depressed even though I’m surrounded by people who love me. Then I feel guilty for having no good reason to feel bad( in my view) My therapist is trying to teach me depression is a disease, not something I created.

I guess loneliness is loneliness. I’m glad you are reaching out. It is helpful to know others share the same feelings. I laughingly say aging is not for the faint of heart💜. Keep in touch.

[taos57]

Thank you for sharing and the kind thoughts

[pam4him]

So sorry you are feeling lonely. It's a difficult place to be sometimes. Perhaps you could take the initiative and reach out to the kids. If that is not really possible, consider volunteering. It sounds like you have a lot of love to give that could be shared with more than family. Food banks, soup kitchens, nursing homes, crisis centers, etc. are usually lacking for volunteers. You may find some friendships as well. Take care, and come visit here anytime. Prayers for new and renewed relationships.

[taos57 in reply to pam4him]

Thank You

[Hidden]

i feel so sad reading your post. no grandma ever should feel so sad and lonely. if your adult children don't have time for you that really sucks. do you volunteer?

[taos57 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you, ZipperMocha for your concern. I am actually raising one of my grandsons who just started high school and he is what keeps me going. I also have started working out at the gym at the senior center. But, very hard to make friends. I life is not like other seniors with leisure time and I am not like the parents of other 14 year old boys, so I don't feel like I really can connect with others. I have met very nice people at the senior center and my time there is a period away from the lonliness. I think the alienation from my family really hurts and having to live in a town where I have none of my interests available, because this is where my grandson has made many friends and loves his high school. This is strictly an oil and farm town, very conservative politically, and I love the arts and am pretty liberal. There are NO support groups here except AA and Alanon. It is just different and I am homesick. But, enough whining, I'm sure you didn't expect this lengthy mess. Thank you so much for your concern. It helps

[CatIsMyCopilot in reply to taos57]

I'm glad you are able to go to a senior center! There's one near my work that always looks so nice, so it's the first thing I thought of when I read your post. I always sort of wish I could go in and hang out, though I'm far from a senior, heh. I hope it's just a matter of time before you find a friend. For me sometimes it feels like finding a needle in a haystack.

[taos57 in reply to CatIsMyCopilot]

I hear you. I think it is very hard in these days, everyone is so busy just trying to survive. But, I do enjoy my workouts and I am seeing great physical changes, some weight loss and lots more strength.

[Hidden]

Hello

You will get lots of company on here and make friends too.

Nice to meeting you. 🙂