Trying to be more assertive

[guynfl2chat]

One of the main things I realize with my anxiety is that I am not assertive enough when it comes to confrontation or work situations. I get anxious when someone appears to be pushing work on me or just not responding. This week I became more assertive and stepped out of my comfort zone. It felt odd at first and I am still a bit anxious about it, but it felt good. I said how I felt and actually went to a co-workers manager to discuss issues I was having with someone for a while. She was receptive and knew I was not one that would easily complain. I take so much crape from people at work because I am easy going and I decided I have had enough. It was an interesting week, but I am still just thinking about my actions and discussions.

[Bundleofnerves]

Hey there, its heartening to know that you made that move for your own mental health. Realising when someone is overstepping their boundaries at work, and how to best deal with it without creating discord is definitely an art. I would say that in any social context, every individual reacts from their own mental space. I myself relate to not being assertive enough, I have had a few breakdowns myself where I was completely swamped by my lack of self-protection. It helps to take it easy on yourself, not react to every single happening around you until absolutely necessary (for your own sanity) and most importantly, be nice to yourself and others.

Good luck to perfecting the art of healthy assertion.