Gave up the business

[optimuscoolbeans]

Hello everyone. Today I sold my part of my business. I have been off and on in major anxiety and depression for a very long time. Today I felt a huge weight lift off of me. Anxiety just gone. Anyway, I am wondering if anyone else made a major change and had the anxiety just go away? I know I will be grieving for a bit but everything in me points to the stress I had being in the business.

[All_alone]

Hi! May I ask how long it took for anxiety to disappear? Was it immediate on signing papers, shortly after, the next day...?

I as well am in my own business nightmare that just seems to get worse everyday . Yes. I'm exhausted, stressed, depressed, angry. I have one part for sale now but so far no luck. I truly hope its sold before winter. Yesterday would have been great though. Haha.

I have often wondered how much better I will feel and how quickly once that part is gone so I can breathe for little while then decide on the next step.

I'm so glad you feel better. It must feel like a huge weight has been lifted. I can fully understand the grieving part because probably like me there is so much of you invested in the business that yes it's a great change. There is much I will miss but since I have nothing left to give I need out.

I look forward to your reply!

[optimuscoolbeans in reply to All_alone]

Almost immediately after I made the hard phone call. But I know there is more work ahead. But it feels like once the ball was rolling it went away.

[MrZee]

Hi optimmuscoolbeans,

I can completely empathize with your decision. It’s a big courageous change.

I had two part-time jobs that I thoroughly enjoyed. With both jobs, I was paying all my bills without having to touch my savings.

Both jobs are Admin Assistant. Job #1 continues going great. Job #2, my boss who hired me liked me a lot and the job started out great. For reasons unknown over time my boss turned into a bully. I was absolutely flabbergasted. It got to a point that she was vocally chewing me out in front of others. Competence on my behalf wasn’t the problem. Her temper was. Though that job paid my mortgage, I was miserable to say the least. I had to go through daily hell walking on eggshells with her temper. It also put my anxiety on tilt. And I would escape the tension by overeating.

Finally my Hubby told me it’s not worth the grief it’s causing me and to get out of there. Over time and a hard decision, I wrote a professional letter of resignation and left it on my boss’ desk.

I felt so empowered doing that, that I was flying high while the anxiety was greatly lifted. The anvils on my shoulder were also gone. On the contrary now I must dip into savings to pay my mortgage until another job is found. But I’d rather do that than being a bullied basket-case for the sake of a paycheck.

I do miss that job because my co-workers and I enjoyed each other a lot and liked my work. I feel sorry for my ex-boss. She obviously has problems.

Needless to say it was just as courageous as your selling out.

Good for you for taking care of yourself.

Best,

-MZ

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I’m so happy for you. Sometimes those daily things/people/careers can literally keep us bogged up and filled with so much anxiety. What a joy to have that release finally. And yes, I left my career in banking of 12 years back in Nov and the moment I walked out and drove off the parking lot I felt like I could actually breathe. I haven’t looked back since. Time to move toward new beginnings for you. Yes the anxiety will come and go with the grieving process but you can push through. We’ve got your back here.

[onthetrail]

Congratulations. Sounds like you've done something very positive for yourself. Many years ago in the middle of a breakdown I had to take a long sabbatical from my job. Seemed crazy at the time, but I really had no choice. I can still remember writing the email to my boss. The relief was immediate, though it took a long time to fully recover. And in the end my career didn't suffer at all. Taking care of yourself is always a good investment in my opinion. Be well.

[PushingThru]

I am currently in the process of leaving my management position. I've been with the company for 13 years and worked my way up from the bottom after leaving my initial graphic design career. Unfortunately for me, it took a full breakdown to see that it was no longer worth it to keep on there. My mental and emotional state took a dive over the last year after I had to stop taking Effexor for medical reasons.

I'm on sick leave at the moment but I have a really great relationship with my boss. We met unofficially outside of work and I heavily hinted about not coming back. Everyone thought I was dumb for saying anything to him as he could cut off my benefits but for my own mental health I had to let him know. He is working with me and our system to help me get everything in place for long term disability should I need it as I haven't officially quit.

He also said I could use him for a reference and we should get together for drinks once I'm past all this and feeling better. Awesome bosses still exist but the relief was immediate once I had solidified the decision to walk away. Some people, even in your working life, want to see you get better. I was fortunate that way and now have the space to truly focus on getting better.

Sorry this was so long!