Feeling judged in every direction

[Indiegal]

I've been struggling lately with a lot of anxiety and the feeling of impostor syndrome as a business owner. But it's getting to be overwhelming and feelings of depression are also creeping in now. It's making it hard to be productive at work lately. I'm launching a new service, which is taking a lot more time and resources than I originally planned and I'm behind on my goals so that's part of it. But I also feel like everyone is telling me what I don't know and what they think I should do all the time lately to run my business and that I don't know what I'm doing. I've been trying to shrug it off by telling myself they are just trying to sell me on their services and are using the things I'm lacking as a sales tactic that I desperately need them to fix my business. Or that they don't understand my goals and priorities and that certain things can wait till I'm done with the service launch. But it's really getting to me now because more people are piling it on and I'm second guessing myself on everything.

It doesn't help that I've been dealing with some somewhat debilitating health issues lately and emergency repairs on my home. So I've had a lot of anxiety around that (as well as the financial part of it) and feel like all the people coming in and out of my home are judging me for my house and mess and every decision I've made about it.

I don't know how to get past this so I can successfully run my business with confidence. I had been feeling pretty confident a few months ago before a lot of these things happened, but now I'm backtracking. And I really need this new venture to succeed. I would love to go to therapy to talk through it all, but it's not really an option right now because of several reasons. Any advice you can share to help me get over this constant feeling of judgment and lack of confidence?

[Gingerbreadman1978]

hi firstly if you run your own business and you have everyone coming to you saying do this do that nominate one person to take the weight of your shoulders deal with things your self and have a meeting with nominated person to what ides every one has come up with then you are dealing with one person not a dozen lighten the load look after your health as for home repairs if it’s a lot of work stop some where else we had a new bathroom fitted I stripped it all out and the fitters did all the work my wife was dreading all the mess and people in and out of house so told her go on holiday she went to Malta with my grown up children when she got back all done and fitted good luck with your new venture take some weight of your shoulder you will feel much better gingerbread man 👍

[Indiegal in reply to Gingerbreadman1978]

Currently all the business operations are on me. I have a few part-time contractors that are only hired for specific tasks so I can't really delegate to them. But I'm trying to figure out what I can afford to delegate to outside agencies or consultants. It's just really hard for me to spend money I don't have right now, even when it's an investment in my business. That's great you were able to fix all those issues while your wife and kids were away. I'm single and have a hard time asking for help, but I probably need to learn it right now with everything going on.

[Gingerbreadman1978 in reply to Indiegal]

thanks for your reply good luck 👍

[012703060610]

Self care! You need to find some time for this. Take it from a person the exact same age, I ran hard in corporate america and am now disabled due to stress and anxiety bringing on autoimmune diseases. I ran a line of business with about 70 associates and it was the end of me. I am so sorry for the multiple stresses. Remember you are the boss! I'm cheering you on from afar!

[Indiegal in reply to 012703060610]

This is probably true about needing to take care of myself. But with my recent health issues putting me behind with my work, I feel like I need to make up the work and should really be working more. I'm not necessarily but feel the constant stress that I should. I appreciate you cheering me on and for listening ( or reading)!

[PeaceNeed]

Stop listening to those fools and make ur decisions based on whats good for the service u provide.Try online counseling. I had small mail order business miss it.

[Indiegal in reply to PeaceNeed]

Any affordable recommendations in the US for online counseling? I did Better Help for a bit and it was a bit expensive. I also tried therapy through Teledoc and local counselors, but there weren't really good options and it was a waste of time and money.

[PeaceNeed in reply to Indiegal]

I use local clinics. They have waiting lists. Its hit and miss. I had to try several before I came across counselor i clicked with.

[Indiegal]

Thanks for the tip. I'm not sure if I can do microdosing legally in my state in the US. Not sure where you are but if you're in the US and have done it legally I'd be interested in hearing how you could get that kind of treatment. Again, really only interested in legal ways. But I have considered maybe CBD or trying to get medical marijuana, even though I've not been one to really do those things recreationally.

[Indiegal]

Also good point about lack of sleep affecting the anxiety. Because of everything, my insomnia has been pretty bad lately. So I'm sure it's also causing other issues and more anxiety. It's a bit of a catch 22 I guess.