My Heart hurts

[Rainawolfia]

I'm not good with long stories..but i can't move on from my old love. And im depressed to the point it is affecting my health badly. I don't know what to do. And i feel i am pushing friends and other people away. I feel i dont trust anyone after what i been through my old love he was the sun that lit up every dark corners of my heart. Now without him my heart fills with the darkness again. And i feel horrible pushing people away and being impossible. I dont know what to do to find that sun again and to be happy again.

[Michdau1]

You are your best source of happiness for you 👍 you can't base your worth or happiness on how someone else feels about you. It's how you feel about yourself. Know that you gave value and greatness xxx

[Rainawolfia in reply to Michdau1]

thanks.. i'm sorry but how do i find happiness with myself.? I always been unhappy. Without him, i would have had no friends. Without him now, now they are gone and he was the one that brought me happiness when i been miserable..

[Michdau1 in reply to Rainawolfia]

I understand what you mean, I really do. It won't happen overnight but you are capable of making new friends. This is scary but exciting cause you have the opportunity to learn about yourself. Grow and evolve. Find new friends, new interests etc. Perhaps just start by writing a diary/journal and do something nice for yourself every day. It only has to be small. Go for a walk, read a book, listen to music. Design and build a wonderful life for yourself XXX

[Rainawolfia in reply to Michdau1]

Ok, i will try.. thank you for replying me. It really is scary, especially going through anxiety. It makes it harder.

[Michdau1 in reply to Rainawolfia]

Anxiety sucks!!! It's awful. Take your time and take care ❤️ if u feel sad, it's ok to be sad. Just know that there is a light at the end of the tunnel x

[Rainawolfia in reply to Michdau1]

Thank you a lot. 💟 i will try.

[Michdau1 in reply to Rainawolfia]

😘😘😘

[Jadely in reply to Michdau1]

You are a very kind hearted uplifting person. May you be truly blessed!!

[Michdau1 in reply to Jadely]

Thanks XXX you too xxx

[HadassahMD in reply to Rainawolfia]

You can do it. I hope you can get help from a professional if you need it. I know how you feel having gone through the same thing myself several years ago. I thought I would never get over the person. I never trusted anyone and I did learn something about people, guys, myself and that like the older Preference hair commercial "I am worth it" and so much more and better than pining over someone who did not appreciate me and I know sometimes people break up without there being hard feelings and still get hurt. I just know that I had to get into a different environment because it was a small town. I found my change of cities did not make me forget the pain of my break-up right away but eventually I did get over him. I know this sounds cliché. You will get better and stronger as long as you focus on moving forward one day at a time. Funny thing when I saw the guy who hurt me years ago he wanted to get back together but I didn't and I have moved on and I guess he has to.

[Rainawolfia in reply to HadassahMD]

Thank you. 💟 means a lot to me. I know life goes on. When i was a young teen i had a crush and got my heart broken when he said he saw me only as family. I cried and now as im 20 and thinking back to my crush i cant believe not only i got over him but i didnt have those feelings for him anymore only just that i cared and was happy for him. Thank you for shining the light on me. I had forgotten this. Much harder when i actually dated for 2 yrs, but it gives me hope to move on and keep going.

[baha-3 in reply to Rainawolfia]

Sorry about how you feel. It is ok to grieve and be sad. Anxiety is a problem, i hope you can get it under control. Sometimes people will feel too much pressure being placed on them for being responsible to keep someone else happy. I used to be like that, i thought if i find a nice caring boyfriend my issues will go away. I have realised i was searching for a parent replacement not a partner. In the future before entering a new relationship you may need to work on your issues and reasons why you have always felt unhappy. I agree with the previous reply, try to find your own worth and value in your life, deal with anxiety, find pleasure in your life.

[Rainawolfia in reply to baha-3]

Thanks. You give me something to journal about i needed that. 💟

[marheart]

Be careful with your words and thoughts. Repeating negativity can make it a reality.

You said Your heart hurts.

Every day I express gratitude in the AM and in the PM. I say "I am grateful for ---"

Accentuate the positive.

[Rainawolfia in reply to marheart]

You are right. 💟 Ty!

[marheart in reply to Rainawolfia]

That's why we joined this site --- to help each other.

I'm glad you are willing to move forward now.