Unsure

[Igneousbonsai]

Honestly, I am in this funk of I am so sad and hopeless that I am ready to die and I tell someone that I love and they minimize how I feel so now I dont want to tell anyone. I try to ask for help and I am told that I have to figure it out. Or that other people have it worse than I do. Im just so unbearly annoying to myself that I dont know what to do. I dont want to feel like this anymore and I dont know what to do with these emotions. Its just making so anxious like I need to run away from everything. What do i do?

[Dolphin14]

Welcome to the community.

Who are these people telling you these things?

Have you looked for a therapist to help you work through some of this?

PS love your avatar.

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[Igneousbonsai in reply to Dolphin14]

Friends and family are really the people that are saying these things. Its very discouraging. I do have a therapist. I feel like I dont get enough support though. I just dont know how to ask for more help.

[Dolphin14 in reply to Igneousbonsai]

Perhaps you should speak to your therapist. Tell this person exactly what you told us. You have a right to say your sessions aren't helping you with what you need. Ask if you can redirect your therapy together to meet your need

[Igneousbonsai in reply to Dolphin14]

Im unsure on how to ask for help. Like sometimes its harder to talk to people on person and let them in. Idk why thats the case

[Dolphin14 in reply to Igneousbonsai]

Starting with your therapist you can make a simple statement...... I'm having a hard time.... that opens the door for the conversation .

[gajh]

Hello and Welcome. I agree with Dolphin14 about talking with a therapist. You will also get a lot of support here.

[Igneousbonsai in reply to gajh]

Thank you

[gajh in reply to Igneousbonsai]

As per your reply to Dolphin14 you said you don't know how to ask for more help. If and when you are ready you can ask for that help here. I get so much support here. It is amazing. Don't be afraid to reach out.

[6236]

hello! I am sorry you are having to deal with people who give you little or no support. As dolphin14 ask who are these people? Are they family or friends? And are you on any medication? If these people are people you trust and care about then shame on them! Don’t let them hold you back and get you down. Yes ultimately you are the only one that can truly make things better. First, seek professional help if you are not seeing a psychiatrist you need to find one. Second, you control your own thoughts try to make an effort to ignore the ones that bring you down. I am 63 years old and I have never had a lot of support from anyone and never felt like I was loved. I have been married for 43 years and my wife still shows very little compassion for me telling me to just deal with! Finally I realized that I needed help and began my journey to help myself. I have been on a few different medications over a period of about 25-30 years I have had good times and bad times but the medication has helped greatly. So please don’t give up and do not let others bring you down!

[Igneousbonsai in reply to 6236]

They are family and friends. Most of them think thay God will provide for me and its not thay I dont believe them but how long to I have to wait and when will I know when He is calling for me to do better. I am on medication, it was just increased. I dont know.

[6236 in reply to Igneousbonsai]

God will help you never give up on him but we can not even begin to know what he has in store for us. Don’t give up on him he will help you ! Please you have to make the decision to move forward! Maybe that is what God is wanting you to do is make the first step. We have to help our self. Try finding a therapist someone who will listen. From what you have said I think you are looking for someone that will hear you and help you and a therapist is a good place to start. Also you have this forum and it is a good resource to talk to people that may be helpful and encourage you.

[Sfqueen in reply to Igneousbonsai]

Hi welcome to the forum, what are you struggling with? we are here to help

[Igneousbonsai in reply to Sfqueen]

Struggling with what might be an eating disorder, MDD and anxiety. Sometimes self harm as well

[Sfqueen in reply to Igneousbonsai]

I am sorry to hear that. how long have you been on medication and are you also getting therapy? things will get better hopefully the medication increases can help you get some peace i know how you feel like your tired of living like this i get it

[Igneousbonsai in reply to Sfqueen]

I have been on medication for 2 years now. I was increased about a week ago. I also go to therapy every two weeks

[Sfqueen in reply to Igneousbonsai]

Do you feel like the medication and therapy has helped you?

[Igneousbonsai in reply to Sfqueen]

I do feel like they can help but im not sure if thats true

[brendonkellyrox]

i dont want you to die if you are feeling suicidal please text 988 you are in this world for a reason we can help and i would also suggest looking into therepy its all confidential

[Sfqueen]

sometimes you have to try different medication to find the right one. i know it’s difficult maybe another therapist