Will I ever find love? Or will anxiety keep me from it

[Lindsey14]

Will i ever find someone to love me? Or will I ever be able to feel love of that kind towards someone. I'm honestly worried about this. Rn my emotions in general feel kinda numb

[Michdau1]

Learn to accept and love yourself 1st. Good things will follow x

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Lindsey

How old are you, generally you need to be sixteen before contributing to this site

There is always someone out there who wants to meet someone like you so do not worry.

BOB

[Lindsey14 in reply to Hidden]

I'm 18

[Lindsey14 in reply to Hidden]

Also thank you

[Hidden in reply to Lindsey14]

Believe me when I say there are always others who will be looking for someone like you. Personally do not be in any hurry to find that right person I did not settle till well on in my twenties. When I met my Wife. Sometimes as we get older we become more mature and can understand our needs in a more inclusive way. We all go out and relationships break down, that is the way we meet the right person for our needs and expectations. It is always better to wait and make sure you are with the right on than rushing in and having relent after marriage. Divorce in some ways is easy. Finding the right person and identifying The One for you is the clever part. We have been married for near on fifty years, a partnership that works is a godsend

BOB

[Marshall64]

According to your profile, you are just 17. That is young. You have your whole life ahead of you. There is a saying that there is a lid for every pot. You'll find someone to love and to be loved. I didn't date until I was 19. I was so scared of women. I didn't think I could date. But I have dated different kinds of women. It becomes an adventure. Just be yourself. Don't be someone you are not.

[sb_10]

I feel this exact same way...everyone tells me “just love yourself and everything will fall into place”, but I find it impossible to love myself...I can’t really stand myself most of the time, mainly because of my anxiety and the inability to show feelings.

I guess I’m just trying to let you know that (as cheesy as it sounds) you’re definitely not alone in this.

[Michdau1 in reply to sb_10]

Impossible or 'I'm possible' XXX you're not alone either sb_10 and you're worthy of love ❤️

[Lindsey14 in reply to sb_10]

Thank you so much, I really needed your comment❤

[Lindsey14 in reply to sb_10]

is it hard to show feelings due to your anxiety?

[Onyx81]

Lindsey, it's ok to feel that way. We've all felt that way, including the ones in this chat that didn't admit it yet. You will definatley fine someone. If not soon than it won't be. Until than continue to build yourself up to the point that when you do meet whoever it is in your life you won't be him but wasn't him. Your doing good. Keep doin what ya doin. Youll get what you looked for and not what to you settled for baby girl.....promise.. KHU. Sincerely,

. Bryan McNellz

[gleason9guy]

Anything is possible. Less things are probable, but still, good odds. It doesn't matter the odds really if you just have hope. Without hope, we have nothing but meaningless statistics.

[cornflakey]

i know exactly how you feel. Im only 18 and people around me are always saying "you're so young, you have plenty of time", but I just have this feeling that I'll always be alone. Everyone around me is with someone or have been in past relationships. I feel like the older I get, the more experienced Im expected to be with anything romantic, do you sort of feel that way too? It scares me that being so inexperienced is a huge setback and it discourages me from trying new things.

We're both so young, and really only time will tell, so i guess for the most part we've got to be optimistic (easier said than done tho). i hope we (and everyone else who feels alone) experience a day in the future, where we think back to these times of believing we're gonna be "forever alone", and realise how wrong we were.

All the best

[cornflakey in reply to cornflakey]

one more thing...

I remember jenna marbles (great source) said something along the lines of "whatever love you give out into the world, will come around and be gifted to you". Just the idea of loving those we have, helping those who need it, or just being kind. Sounds kinda preachy and too good to be true, but it helps me a little to think that i should focus on giving love in the ways i can. I think it should help fulfil us, and act as a distraction from lonely thoughts, until that love is returned in a way we need and deserve.

[Lindsey14 in reply to cornflakey]

I definitely get how ya feel, i really do

[Want2BHappy3]

Sorry to say it can? People don't want to hear about the anxiety we suffer with. If you do find someone? Speak to a counselor instead of family or friends. That's what I've learned