I met a really amazing guy today and spent most of the day with him getting to know each other. However, he asked me a question that took me off guard.
“how often do you hang out with friends?”
I don’t have many friends, maybe none at all. I wish I could have told him this but how can anyone love a person who has no friends?
So I made up a lie: “oh probably once biweekly”
Then he said: “why so rare? I hang out with friends almost everyday”
I just felt embarrassed for having no friends. Maybe I am stupid for thinking that a social guy would ever love a loner like me.
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Dont feel like a loser. I know anxiety can make it hard to gave friends and make new friends. I struggle with wanting to have more friends but then not wanting to because of my anxiety. Being a loner doesn't make you a loser. If he really likes you he should understand.
yes but i see all the comments online saying how you should always avoid dating a person who has no friends because it must mean something is very wrong with them. it just makes me feel so bad
Already?..Your in love...anyway, it was only a little white lie..what makes you think he's looking for love?..mmm..it's cute..wish you all the best..
he said he’s looking for something serious. we went on two dates and i tend to fall in love easily. he says he’s uncomfortable being exclusive right now, but would like to get to know me more.
I know it's just a question but you shouldn't compare your lives and think you are the one that has an issue because you don't hang around friends often. I personally feel everyday is way to much. haha . I don't have any friends, the number is 2, like actual friends. I don't see them often and we are all ok with it. All that matters is how you really feel about it. Not what anyone else does.
My only friends are my sisters and facebookers. I’m very much a loner. Doesn’t bother me one bit.
yes you are very right. he always says he’s an introvert but it seems like he’s very social.. i do prefer someone who is a homebody but at the same time i really like him
i may not spend time with who i call friends on a daily basis but at least i keep in touch with them. At least they care about me and know what is going on. Thats what matters. I had people turn away from me or I may have pushed them away or I said something to them to turned them away but this was at the beginning of my anxiety disorder. They may have not known how to approach it in a good way or was in the fear of setting an attack off. Yes I see them every now and them when they can help me since I"m not driving my vehicle. True friends stick by your side through thick and thin no matter what. Just stay strong and let him know what is going on. I know it will be hard to due but stay truthfull with him and I'm sure he'll understand
Oh how sad u feel u couldnt tell truth. Everyone not the same and im sure he understand this.. he obv likes u.
I have 4 friends! Close friends but i dont see them all time mayb once a month.
It doesnt make u a loner it makes u someone that is happy being on own and does not need to surround urself with people.
As someone that suffers anxiety i dint like having alot of people around me, busy pubs or restaurants , airports but my husband understand this... he respect that . He is very socialable and i respect that. The one thing i will say is be very honest
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