It's not really funny

[Lightattheend]

Today a family member laughed and joked about my frequent visits to the ER due to my health anxiety. She said I know when U go to the ER the Dr's say "oh my god, here she comes again", and she continued to go on and on about it. All I could do is play along with it. The thing about it is that it is not funny. It's not funny at all. It's all fun and games until the shoe is on the other foot.

[Hidden]

Awww my family totally ignores me when I talk about my health anxiety. I know how you feel. Take it slow.

[Lightattheend in reply to Hidden]

Thank you.

[Ready2Soar]

Why are people so INSENSITIVE?

That’s how people snare , make faces and gossip about me being tongue-tied when I’m tensed at work.

[Lightattheend in reply to Ready2Soar]

It's terrible.

[Dolphin14]

I get made fun of because I don't like to go out of the house that much to events. I have social anxiety. I would rather stay home. I get it from family and friends.., it's mean

[Lightattheend in reply to Dolphin14]

It's very mean. I don't understand it and I never will.

[Sunnidayz1]

Sorry you have to go through that. Many people dont know what having anxiety is unless they go through it themselves. You are obviously not alone bc millions in the US suffer from anxiety & depression. If u care enough to do so, it might help to do some research on the topic and show your family that it should be taken seriously. It's no joke.

[Lightattheend in reply to Sunnidayz1]

Thanks. I will definitely take that advice.

[Michdau1]

It's so strange how you can break a bone which heals in a few weeks and get loads of sympathy and support. However, if you have a mental health issue or any kind of 'invisible illness', people have such a lack of empathy and understanding. If they don't want to understand, they are ignorant in my opinion and you shouldn't waste your energy/time trying to educate them. Just focus on yourself. However, if they want to learn and understand better, I agree with sunnidayz1 completely 😘 know your self worth. You are valued and worth the time x

[Lightattheend in reply to Michdau1]

Thank you ❤

[Lightattheend]

I appreciate it ❤❤❤

[gleason9guy]

Until someone is paying your way, then they have some say as to your treatment plan. Otherwise, I would remind them of this fact and to take the invitation to butt out of your life in regard to this matter.

[Lightattheend in reply to gleason9guy]

Well said.

[ribby]

Hi. I’ve been to the Emergency Room a lot of times myself. It’s no picnic. You wait six hours before anyone helps you in my town (Boston). Once a doctor at Mass General yelled at me (regarding my anxiety) and said “DID YOU EVER THINK YOU MIGHT JUST BE A BIG BABY, MAYBE YOU ARE JUST A BIG BABY, A BIG BABY!!” It was horrible. And at Beth Israel too, the nurses treat you like crap unless they find something physically wrong with you. So tell your family member that it’s not fun or funny. I’m sorry, for your problem. I get a bit of it too, that is until one time it was a Pulmonary Embolism and then the doctor, nurses, and my family took notice. Try to explain to them what anxiety is. It’s feels like a bear is right in front of you and about to attack. It’s the same a being scared.

[Lightattheend in reply to ribby]

Thank U.

[Lightattheend]

No they wouldn't...

[KirstyC90]

I hope you’re okay and sorry that you have experienced such negativity, and from a family member too. I would suggest not to speak to them about it in future as sadly some people just don’t get it and don’t understand how frustrating it is for the person suffering (and sometimes they have no intention of educating themselves to know). Like with every condition it’s finding someone who relates or helping a person relate by linking it to an area of their life. But to minimise hurt I think you shouldn’t speak to this person about it anymore. As you can see on here, other people have also visited the ER about this, and it is a genuine health condition that needs properly addressing and treating rather than ignoring. I hope you get the support that you deserve from other family members or friends. Take care.

[Lightattheend in reply to KirstyC90]

Thanks for your kind words 💜

[KMarti19]

I am sorry hon that those around you make fun of it.... get some positive support anxiety and panic are real physical events....Find a good doctor

[Lightattheend in reply to KMarti19]

They are very real. Thank U.

[pink318]

Hello- I have a sister who is also going through health anxiety, she is getting better but still we continue praying for her. I know it’s not easy to go through something like this because I could see in my sister’s situation. Anxiety, if not properly handled will affect someone’s daily life that's why I told my sister to surround herself with people who will encourage her and try not to entertain the negative comments.

I’m very sorry you experience that kind of negativity especially from your family. I pray that you will have peace and you will overcome anxiety. Please keep us posted. Take care.

[Hidden]

Honestly I would tell the family member to take a flying leap (well I would really say a lot more, involving much profanity, but I am controlling myself) and tell them to knock it off. Ask them if they would like to hear everything that they told you, and that you don’t go to the ER because of the ambience or because it’s a fun place to go. Until that family member has gone through what you have, they have no right to ‘joke’ about it. If they are semi reasonable, I would tell them that what they said hurt you, and you don’t want to hear them say anything like that again. If they persist, leave their presence, repeatedly if necessary.

[Lightattheend in reply to Hidden]

Thank U. I agree with everything totally.