The Cost of Saving Myself

[MrZee]

I work at the nearby community college. I’m a part-time administrative assistant. It’s nothing to brag about but I love my job, my supervisor, and my manager. Though the job only pays 1/2 of my bills where I’m financially strapped.

Three years ago, I met the head of the school’s tutoring center. We hit it off as friends immediately. Six months ago she had a part-time admin position open up and offered it to me. I was in heaven...I had two jobs that I enjoyed and enough to pay the bills.

All my life I’ve struggled with ADD. So sometimes I have to ask the same question more than once or told what to do more than once. It’s formally called, “Non Linear Thinking.” There’s nothing wrong with me, that’s just how I was assembled. It doesn’t bother my morning supervisor/job a bit.

However, it seemed to drive my afternoon job’s supervisor up a tree. She was constantly snapping at me for asking too many questions or her having to give me instructions more than once. Still, it wasn’t a big deal. I got my job done and did it well.

Over the course of the six months she became outright mean. I was befuddled. She gets along with everyone else yet takes her frustrations out on me. It got to a point that coming to that job was walking on eggshells. ... twice she outright scorned and humiliated me in front of coworkers and students. I was humiliated. It got so bad that I’d come home every night and whine to my Hubby. The job was hurting me and my marriage.

Last week, again out of the blue she went off on me over something minuscule and insignificant right in front of others. That’s it. I’ve had enough.

Over the past weekend I typed up an effective immediately resignation letter. I kept it positive and professional and left it on her desk when she was in a meeting.

I saved myself. What leaves me sad is she and I were such good friends. Obviously she sabotaged our friendship and has her own demons. But now I’m back to one part-time job and financially challenged.

But no matter the cost, my sanity is invaluable. Something else will come along... and here’s hoping that it will be a much better working environment.

[Agora1]

MrZee, I'm so sorry in what you were forced to do regarding your job. I would have

done the same thing. We can't put a price on our mental or physical welfare. Keep

that positive attitude in that something else will come along. Wishing you well xx

[MrZee in reply to Agora1]

Thank Agora1 you for the wonderful feedback. You’ve always been most kind.

[Michael8072]

I agree with Agora1. I would have done the same thing. Stay positive hope another door opens up soon for you. Sending positive thought.

[MrZee in reply to Michael8072]

Thank you... it’s nice to have positive support for my decision.

[JAYnLA]

You're absolutely right. This is your life we're talking about - and you chose your mental well being. With the attitude you're expressing here, I wouldn't be surprised if you have another opportunity very quickly.

[MrZee in reply to JAYnLA]

Thank you JAYnLA. That is most understanding and encouraging of you.

[Hidden]

No job is worth that kind of abuse. You will be an asset to any new job you get. You didn’t need that aggravation.

[MrZee in reply to Hidden]

Thank you. I am honored by your encouraging words.

[hypercat54]

I agree totally with the others and you definitely made the right decision. You can't put a price on mental health and no job is worth that rubbish.

I was working part time once and the supervisor was awful and a real cow. She was sarky, impatient and a bully. So I did the same as you - I walked. I didn't even give notice just walked out and never went back. They had overpaid me by 3 days and asked for the money back. On their bike - I kept it all. x

[MrZee in reply to hypercat54]

Good for you h54! I can totally relate. The last day she bullied me I wanted to say, “Screw you *itch.” And walk. But I gritted my teeth and left at the end of my shift. When I got home, Hubby calmed me down and told me to cool off before typing my resignation. That was smart on his behalf. Because I typed the resignation the next day with a clearer mind.

Thank you for the support!