I feel like “everything” is “going wrong”

[Lost_in_life]

I feel like “everything” is “going wrong” in my life. I wrote out this long list but now I’m too embarrassed to post it. I used to self-righteously, privately refer to some people as “trouble magnets.” Now I feel like one. It seems like as things go wrong in my life it just cascades and more and more stuff goes wrong.

[Agora1]

Lost in Life, it's true that negativity attracts more of the same, however you

can turn that around. Go over that list you made of things that are going wrong

in your life. You don't have to share it but it does need to be addressed. Sometimes

we need to see it in writing all we think we may be responsible for in order to understand

life happens. It's our choice, our thoughts and our actions that will make the difference

in the long run. My best to you. xx

[Lost_in_life in reply to Agora1]

The really frustrating thing is that more than half of the list are things that are beyond my control -- things I simply can't do anything about. That, to me, is maddening. I don't know how to "let go" of my anxiety over these things... and I feel like I'm to blame for them.

[Agora1 in reply to Lost_in_life]

I understand Lost in Life that things that are beyond our control are one of the

hardest things to let go of. But we have to for our own sanity. That is probably

one of the hardest parts of anxiety in learning how to accept what we cannot

control. I have a big issue with that myself. I cannot control everything in my life.

Life is not perfect. Acceptance of this fact is important in not staying stuck in a

fear cycle. We are each our own person. xx

[Lost_in_life in reply to Agora1]

I just wish I knew how to let these things go. I'm more than aware of life being imperfect... but I'm clueless on how to let some things go.

[Agora1 in reply to Lost_in_life]

I wish there were an easy way to let go but there isn't. It takes time

and practice for me in keeping myself on an even keel. Even at that,

it's difficult. I use meditation and deep breathing every single day.

I listen to affirmations on YouTube videos so I don't lose sight of who

I am and what I'm capable of doing. Sorry I can't give you an easy answer. xx

[Lost_in_life in reply to Agora1]

Thanks. I wish I could teach myself to meditate. I have a real hard time "turning my thoughts off." Things like meditating or journaling seem to make things worse for me... but I know I'm just not doing them right or giving them enough time.

[Agora1 in reply to Lost_in_life]

You are not alone in that thought. I wasted years of my life not really

getting what my therapist was saying, what meditation was all about.

One day, it all came together and it will for you as well. Finding what

works best for you is the key. I go to YouTube as my trial and error

guide to anxiety. Very infrequently will something work the first time.

It takes practice. I've tried it all and now I'm set for life in all I've learned.

Wishing you the same. xx

[Nish_]

I am going through same situation :/

[Lost_in_life in reply to Nish_]

Sorry to hear that, Nish_. I hope things start going better for both of us!

[pam4him]

I'm sorry your feeling so lost. I've found that when I am focused on a negative, more negative rises to the surface. I have to stop, take a moment-short break, walk, or my personal favorite, take a weekend camping trip to get away and clear my head. Then I focus on the positives and find the energy and mental clarity to start finding solutions, resolutions or release of those negatives. Prayers for wisdom as you turn that list into right things.