Hopeless

[green6502]

I feel like i need constant contact with people to be happy. I fear being alone, i get so sad. I find myself driving around at night asking my friends if i can see them just so i dont have to go home. I recently lost a boyfriend because he said im too negative. And i realized a lot of the negativity comes from my household. My mom says so many of the wrong things in wrong situations. My dad doesn’t understand anything i say, and neither does my mom. Me and my brother have nothing in common. I hate living in such isolation. But everytime i talk to my mom we argue because we have different viewpoints. and it really bothered me that i lost a boyfriend to my negativity but i cant help it when i live in it. and he said he still tried to see the positive outlook, but i find that impossible. im so hopeless. i want to find activities and hobbies but i have none. and my mom doesnt support me to find things to do she doesnt even try to help.

[Kat63]

Is there anyone else you could talk to, outside of your family? If you’re still in school, is there a counselor or a teacher you could reach out to?

You were right to come here and reach out for help. I can tell you that it IS possible to overcome negative thinking. Try to find a book called “Feeling Good: The New Mood Therapy,” by David Burns. This book has exercises you can do to change the way you think. It worked for me.

[green6502 in reply to Kat63]

i cant really talk to anyone, the counselors at my school are intimidating. but ill look for that book thank you

[Mommabear15]

I’m here any time you need someone and you can message me and we ca go from there to talking everyday becoming friends or anything you’d like. I know how it feels to be negative or cause negativity it sucks sometimes but we can overcome it and get past it no matter what. I’m up anytime of the day or night and don’t hesitate to message me

[green6502 in reply to Mommabear15]

thank you

[mixed-emotions]

Hopeless or Lonely? Reading your post sounds so familiar to me. I have been there! It even caused me to marry the WRONG person because they were "THERE" for me. I actually started going to the library and taking little classes to be around people not so much interacting and talking but to feel comfortable being alone BUT with something to do. It has been over 7 yrs when I was in that exact position and I have grown so much.

I also pulled away from ALL negativity in my life and started well forced myself to only say something positive or NOTHING at all. I changed all my responses in hopes of changing my attitude and well it really worked.

I also would volunteer wherever I could to be around positive people. I hope this helps.

[green6502 in reply to mixed-emotions]

thanks