Alone

[FriMar8]

I feel completely alone. I'm in a very demanding academic program that takes up the majority of my time. I am stressed all of the time and feel like I have no control over my life. My husband is not understanding and tells me that he doesn't have time for my "self-pity". I don't think he wants to be with me anymore, and quite frankly, I don't blame him. I desperately want the pain to stop. I really just need some hope, please.

[erica0329]

Hey whatever you going through you are going to get through it .. maybe you could sit down with your husband and make him understand what you go through maybe that way he could see that you need his support . Sometimes people who don’t go through things like this don’t really understand... so they say rude stuff without knowing.

[FriMar8 in reply to erica0329]

Thank you for your kind words. I was able to speak to my husband last night and tried to help him understand how I was feeling. He still doesn't completely get it, but at least tried and was a lot nicer about it.

[Titan4757]

Hi FriMar! Sounds like you're pretty hard on yourself. Congrats on taking on a challenging academic program. I'm sure it's demanding and challenging but if you qualified, you're probably plenty smart enough to be successful. How about you start visualizing the moment you finish the program. Imagine the moment with your family, the smile on your face and the sense of accomplishment release of tension in your body. If you focus inward on the negatives you don't get to enjoy the positives. You're working at something that doesn't finish overnight but will in time! The more relaxed you are the more relaxed your hubby will be. He probably wants the best for you but it bothers him to see you in a state of stress and not being yourself. Keep going after your goals and be the best wife you can be. We all believe in you!

[FriMar8 in reply to Titan4757]

Thank you so much. Your words were really helpful in getting me through what was a tough night. I was able to speak to my husband and went to sleep feeling a bit better. xoxo

[leanneski]

Hi, it can be really difficult when you have two people who deal very differently with stress and anxiety, everyone has their own way of coping. Make sure your getting enough sleep 7-8 hours, otherwise your brain function will be impaired and you’ll struggle more in the day. I also find that taking short breaks to do something else other than studying every so often helps whether its doing a bit of house work or yoga, going for a walk. Eat well and drink plenty of water. It’s also difficult when your stressed and feeling short on time to do exercise but I find it helps massively and I end up having more energy overall.

Keep at it! It will all be worth it in the end 😁 x

[FriMar8 in reply to leanneski]

Thank you for your reply. Self-care is something I struggle with because my program takes up so much time (I work from 9am-7pm, come home and have dinner, then work again until 2 or 3am). I try to eat well and fit in exercise before I work in the morning, but sleep is tough. I was able to catch up a bit last night though. It's a sunny and relatively warm day (I'm in Canada), so I'm going to go for a long run and try to enjoy the day.