Hopelessly alone

[Scigy1]

Hopelessly confused and feeling lonely. Happily married to a woman for many years but have occasional rare but deep attractions, connections to other men and don’t know whether they’re mutual or I can or should act on them. Incapable of building real male friendships, intimate, honest, real ones bc of fear that I may be reading into connection too much and might blow it! Any tips?

[-Sasha-]

Is there any chance that this is something you could talk to your wife about? I know it won't be easy but she may be more understanding than you think. If not then I think the first thing you need to decide is how much your marriage means to you before exploring your curiosity. I wish I could have been more helpful here, but I wish you the best of luck with this.

~S~

[kenster1]

just like woman fantasise about other woman men fantasise about men too although most wouldn't admit it.dont be going having affairs or anything with anyone its un fare on your wife.probably best not to mention it to her but if you feel the need to chat then speak to someone closer to home.

[rayana]

I would agree with Sasha that it may be worth discussing with your wife. For many people, polyamory feels a lot more natural- there is no need to feel guilty about it, especially if you find a way to openly discuss it. As for opening up to the men, remember that you deserve to be able to express how you feel as long as you do it in a genuine and polite way. If they respond with anger or homophobia, then they are probably not who you thought they were to begin with. Best of luck x

[Lostnluv]

I agree definitely find a way to talk to her about it. She may be upset about it at first but if you have a living marriage she will understand and will be able to help you through this the best. I’m a female in a long term relationship but I’ve had other interest before. It’s more common then most would think.

[Scigy1]

Thanks so much Rayana, that was incredibly helpful. Have a great day!

[Scigy1]

Thanks to you all, I really appreciate your feedback and understanding.

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My tip: go ahead and blow it...youll be capable of building real male relationships then and the fear

will disappear..