How do you do a job you hate when you have anxiety?

[eternalsunsh1ne]

I know someone who owns a small local pub and agreed to work a couple days a week when they need an extra pair of hands. I didn't really want to but felt pressured so said yes. I was told I would just be a pot washer and sometimes serving but I have to take orders and make desserts too which I never wanted to do in the first place. I get so anxious whenever I have to go in because I don't know what I'm doing. I'm not suited for this job because I just can't multitask. I can only concentrate on one thing at a time and I'm too slow. I find it impossible to serve a table, clear another table, make desserts for them and wash up in between. I can never work out what table has what food and I can't fake the happiness or the smile. I'm too spaced out and anxious on top of that.

I don't know what to do. I just feel like I reluctantly agreed to help out and now I have this stressful job I never wanted. I was just asked to work today and in a panic I said I couldn't as I was busy even though I'm not because I know that it will be under staffed and I'll have even more jobs that I can't do. I get paid less than minimum wage and the tips aren't huge because it's a tiny pub.

I get so upset over it and can't quit until I find another job which I'm struggling to do. Does anyone have any advice?

[Sillysausage234]

They must think your doing a good job,are you on meds for anxiety

[eternalsunsh1ne in reply to Sillysausage234]

I'm not sure. I'm technically family so I don't think they'd say anything if I wasn't. And no I tried meds a few months back and had a bad reaction.

[TriggerPoint]

"Look" For THAT Other Job. "Never" Put That Off In The Background Worrying About The Job You Are Doing Now. If You Are Looking For Another Job That You Think You'd Like Better, It Will Ease A Little Of The Anxiety Of The Existing Problem You Have Because In The Back Of Your Mind You "Know" It's Temporary.

"Ease Up" On Yourself Also. So You Are Having A Few Problems Multitasking In A Job Where You Are Still Basically A Trainee. [that's so normal & causes anybody some anxiety]... Hey ! Remember ? You Took This Really As A "Part Time Pitch In" Project. [ pause and calmly think about it ]

So, Do Your Best. That's All You Can Do ? You May Find In Time You've Become Great At It & That NEVER Hurts Even If It's The Job You're Not Looking For. I Found That If I Approached A Job I Really Didn't Like. I'd Still Wanted To Learn Everything I Could About The Job Just For Future Knowledge That May Come In Handy One Day. Who Knows ?

BUT !* Make Sure You Are "Applying & Looking" For Another Job You Think Better Suits You. Always Remember & Tell Yourself, "Sittin'Ain't Gitiin' Nothing Done". You Can't Swim Until You Get In The Water & Most Of The Time It Takes A Row Boat To Find The Ship & The Row Boat Is Useless On Shore.....

[ &remember, your row boat is in the water. it's that job ]

Best Of Luck To Ya & Prayers~*

[eternalsunsh1ne in reply to TriggerPoint]

That's reassuring, thank you

[eternalsunsh1ne]

It depends on the day and what I'm doing. Sometimes it's not too bad but all those negatives outweigh it.

[eternalsunsh1ne]

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