How do you prove emotional abuse especially when the abuser makes himself look like Husband/Father of year? How do I protect my children?

[BouncingSoul]

I was diagnosed with GADd Drpression PTSD and insomnia. My husband of 25 years and his family think that these are my choices and I will get over them but they have no interest in learning how yet they continue to be combative and judgmental.

[Traveller85]

My father was like that.

[BouncingSoul in reply to Traveller85]

Did people ever see both sides? People think I’m crazy but I’m starting to think he may need more help than me. It’s so frustrating. He gets to be the good guy.

[Traveller85 in reply to BouncingSoul]

People only saw it when my mother started talking. She hid it for a Long time. But men like that appear perfect in public.

[Traveller85 in reply to Traveller85]

It took her 32 years to leave him. I hope that doesn’t happen to you.

[BouncingSoul in reply to Traveller85]

I tried talking and people thought I was crazy bc no one ever saw my husband the way my children and I do. He is so charming. He used to be so genuine. He made me feel like a queen. He was truly my Prince Charming -the last few years he turned into a toad. He’s constantly taking digs at me judging me looking for something to start an argument. He is doing the same to the majority of our children but they are too scared to say anything or too young. He’s combative. He’s condescending. He disrespects me and dismisses me.

[AZ1970]

You won’t be able to change their minds. You will need to decide if you can get well in that environment. I would have a very hard time.

[BouncingSoul in reply to AZ1970]

After being married for 25 years 6 children 4 grandchildren along with the fact that I literally have zero family on my side I don’t know. My biggest concern is my younger 2 boys. I also want to save my marriage. I just don’t know how much more I can take. Our lives are so intertwined. Thanks for reminding me what I need to hear.