Need guidance

[melbrown]

Hi. As some of you know I've been working at a shop for a LONG time. It's a small mom & pops... Things aren't always great (what job is?)... my manager can be a B... though we've worked together forever I can't go to her for stuff. The same goes for my boss, though I've been there the longest. When my anxiety/depression got so bad I went to IOP... my boss wasn't supportive. Was upset I was on 3 week medical leave. She was cool for awhile, but now getting pressured to give up my Thurs mental health day. Well... my brother texted me yesterday. He works in an office, they need a new receptionist & are offering it to me... I've meet them a few times. The pay is more, 830-5 m-f, paid holidays, cool with me needing therapy time- actually down the street from them.... less stress, know I don't have office experience, but are cool with it. A ton of positives... yet my anxiety is up, sky high. I have both my siblings telling me do it, so is my husband.... my brother is having her call me. I feel I owe my boss to stay.... but I know I don't... any advice would be awesome. Thanks 💛

[Sillysausage234]

Ding dong 🎶 Mel brown calling 😁go mel sounds like a new start don’t look back ....✌🏼☀️Do you remember Hong Kong fooey the cartoon ......rosemary the telephone lady ?? Probably too young ....☎️

[melbrown in reply to Sillysausage234]

😄 sorry don't know cartoon... sounds familiar... you are telling me what family is saying... wish anxiety would listen... How's our DJ doing?

[Sillysausage234 in reply to melbrown]

Dj mermaid? Rosemary the telephone lady is a cool receptionist,it was a funny cartoon in the 70 s I thought of you 😊

[melbrown in reply to Sillysausage234]

I thought you were the DJ at all these dance parties..🕺🎧🎶 ahh.. nope I'm an 80s baby

[Sillysausage234 in reply to melbrown]

Mel I would gladly do it but I don’t know how to upload you tube stuff hypercat has been giving lessons out today but I still don’t get it 🤷‍♂️🖖😁 ..anyday now though 🎶💃🕺x

[hypercat54]

Hi you have been at your current job a long time so of course any change is scary! Why not go to the office and meet your prospective boss and run through what your new job would entail? You don't owe your current boss anything and I am sure they would get rid of you or any other employee in a heartbeat if it suited their purposes.

Don't let fear rob you of a good opportunity, but equally don't jump out of the frying pan into the fire. x

[melbrown in reply to hypercat54]

Hi Hypercat54 💛 My brother has given me the run down... have her number suppose to call her today. Basically to get info & see if we mesh. My brother knows what I am going through... out of my family he is the one I'm closest to... I am sure he wouldn't suggest this job if he felt I couldn't it. I'm not a risk taker at all... so definitely want all the details. 🤞

[souljapods]

if your boss is pressuring you to give up something that is essential to your wellbeing, which mental health days definitely are, then you dont owe it to her to stay. this is your life and journey, and you owe it to yourself to do whatever will make you the most content - you deserve this new receptionist job! it sounds like a great new start in your life and i definitely think u should take it. i wish u all the best!

[melbrown in reply to souljapods]

Thank you Souljapods. Your advice echo what my family has been saying. This past year has been a struggle to learn to put myself & my mental health first. This would be a huge step towards that... to be valued. Plus my brother being there would have someone in my corner. Doesn't hurt to at least talk to them... Will let you know...

[Hidden]

Go for it Mel, you know I've never been a fan of your boss especially since i saw how stressful it was and you didn't even had extra help, yes obviously change is scary sweetie but not taking advantage of such a great opportunity would feel worse, PLUS THEY'RE COOL WITH YOUR THERAPY TIME. We all want what's best for you sweetie and that job is 🌻💜💜

[melbrown in reply to Hidden]

Hi Sunflower❣ Knew you would be my cheerleader... I keep trying to tell myself that... that to at least talk to them, see if it's all as cool as my brother says. He loves me, knows me, wouldn't put me in a bad spot. Thanks babe. 🌻💛🌻💛🌻

[Hidden]

I agree with all your family and friends. Time to jump ship. I get in ruts too because of my anxiety, sounds like you are doing the same thing. Better pay, better everything, good time for change plus being a receptionist you will have lots of opportunity to mingle, be social. That will definitely help with anxiety. From my understanding of anxiety, baby steps and eventually you will overcome, whatever is triggering the anxiety

[Hidden]

Any update with the new job Mel

[melbrown in reply to Hidden]

Yes😄 I'll write an update post... thank for reminding me.