trying to hang on

[melbrown]

My boss has known for some time we would have to move the store this summer & it turns out she has basically had her head in the sand. I was trying not to worry, because there's nothing I can do, just do my job. Know unconcentually (sorry can't spell) I have, started bubbling, told my manager. She told me, we had a place figured out. Well that fell through over the weekend. I didn't find out officially until today... sounds like they might have a plan B, though no lease signed ... so holding my breath ... And I just found out the store have to be out by July 4th.... I can scream & cry... wish I was strong enough to tell them were to go. I've been such a good, loyal employee for so long... & so hurt to be out of the loop. My manager says it's because they don't want me to worry, they are aware of my anxiety & depression. I am very bless that financially my husband & I would be okay if my job becomes no more. I worry because I am afraid my husband will leave & I'll have nothing... we're good, but growing up in a broken home, causes me to feel that why. I have no engery or convendence to look for a new job right now.... just can't. 😢

[Hidden]

Give yourself time. You only learned of this news today. Sleep on it. You will find it will get easier to look for a new job. You just need time to process everything.

[melbrown in reply to Hidden]

Thank you 😊 Trying to relax & just go with it. Diffcult but I have to. I'll worry about new job when time comes...

[Grimreaper]

Dear Melbrown

You need to take the news sooner or later . Good you got to know a month in advance and as you said you will be okay for Timebeing even if no income as your husband is also earning .

It’s time for introspection , take a deep breath.. who know life has kept much better job in store for you ..

All the best .. don’t worry .. you have still a month or two to find a job

All the best 👍👍

[melbrown in reply to Grimreaper]

Thank you Grimreaper. My husband & I talked a little last night. He's trying to convince me not to worry... suggested I could even look into volunteering. Which sounds good.... giving back, less stressful than finding work & if I hate it, not a big deal if I stop.😊

[Hidden]

Take time for you then! You certainly deserve it!!! Every thing will work out in the end...keep the faith sister friend!!!! Love & Hugs!!! XXXXXXXXXXXXX

[melbrown in reply to Hidden]

Love you anxiety_59 ❣❣❣❣ I am hoping so 🤞 Right now want less stress would be good 😊

[Hidden in reply to melbrown]

Wouldn't it though?? Better days are on the way!!! Love & hugs!!! XXX

[fauxartist]

I'm sorry that your boss is being short sighted, and even if you were; 'in the loop', your still at the mercy of their decision process..It’s frustrating when you have no control over your situation...but what you do have control over is how you deal with it yourself....you know no matter what happens, you’ll be okay, so try your best to roll with this, disassociate yourself from what’s going on with this change, expect nothing, good or bad...we have no control over people places or things, yeah, it’s not easy for us, but it’s a way to make sense of the situation for now....sure....abandonment issues from having an unstable childhood haunt us as adults and are always are in the back of our minds whenever we are in a relationship....but unless your partner has ‘said’ they are going to leave us....it’s only our stinkin thinkin that says this to mess with our head, they are old tapes of fear of the unknown playing, and it’s probably not real...yeah...funny analogy but true. Get busy with something in your private life that will take your interest off the job for right now, the best you can...hobby or whatever....hang in there mel

[melbrown in reply to fauxartist]

Thank you Fauxarist for the sound advice. Trying to roll with it... was suggested to stick out by another friend. That if the store closes I would get unemployment. Volunteering is starting to sound good, so might do that. Yes, the bad childhood doesn't help.... it's a huge struggle for me. Trying to work on it in therapy 🤞 Maybe helping children will help me with that. Thanks again.

[fauxartist in reply to melbrown]

the damage done to children is unforgivable ..... yet we are supposed to forgive to move on... I think forgiving should be much more deserved... we forgive ourselves, forgive shortcomings of friends on occasion, forgive an occasional bad mood of a spouse, but forgiving the abuse that has molded us.. not so much.... what gift has been given from abuse as children, what lession was there to learn in life from torment and neglect...what absolution was accepted when the abuser thinks they have done no wrong when you allowed yourself to even think you want to forgive them....no...over rated.

[Hidden]

They should have said something to you sooner, maybe this little time off will do you well especially since your job be stressful at times when you had to do everything yourself, something even better might come along... and girly that hubby of yours love you 💙💙💙💙💙

[melbrown in reply to Hidden]

Danielle❣ loves you 😄 You basically said the same thing he did. Might do some volunteering after working at the store. Did a little looking & some sound good... maybe something with kids ... to find my joy again. Or at least something less stressful.

[Hidden in reply to melbrown]

😘😚😚 i mean seriously who wouldn't love you my dear Mel you're awesome even Han solo think so and our furry babiesare never wrong. Take your time and find something you'll love and less stressful with people who appreciate you

[melbrown]

😅 bet Han Solo would love me not having a job.... more snuggletime for him.