Terrible life

[Momanyi]

I had a poor upbringing and I'm not attractive both physically and socially. This has made me despise myself and has led me into a life of constant anxiety and depression. I'm getting old and have no girlfriend or any strong relationship for that matter. I feel useless and not needed and it's killing me everyday. I need help!

[jkl5500]

If you'd like to talk, I'm here to listen.

[Hidden]

Hug for you. Life is hard but you are still trying to get better. I send a prayer for u

[Hidden]

Please don't be so hard on yourself...no one is perfect. But we have to make the best of it how ever we can. I'm here if you need to talk to anyone. I can relate to you alot

[pink83737]

Here for you!

[Kyliecancer25]

First of all don't be so hard on your self you are beautiful inside and out you just have to have more self love. If you find love in yourself first you then can love another but you have to love yourself first and that is being positive and blessing everything small no matter what it is. Wake up in the morning look in the mirror and say one positive thing about yourself even if your not feeling it just say it even if it's something like I love the way my hair sits or that's a kind man looking back I bet it helps do it and see how you feel after!

We all have flaws and traits we hate about ourselves but it's only us that can change our aspects of this obviously we can't change them physically but emotionally and mentally we can just be positive take deep breaths find your inner happiness and self love and you will find someone lovely will come into your life but it comes down to you! You have to make these changes in yourself first! How do I know all this stuff? I have been in a similar situation not quite the same but close enough good luck and if you want to chat message me! You are beautiful and take each day as it comes AND stay true to yourself x

[hypercat54]

Hi it does sound like you need to work on yourself and your self esteem. We can all improve on what we have both appearance wise and personality. I am nothing to look at but have had my share of fellas and have been told I have a lively personality.

Have you thought of trying counselling to help point you in the right direction? x

[lillyofthevalley37]

Some men think they are God's gift to women and that is so unattractive I'm sure you have sold yourself short and even if you haven't your honesty is endearing I pray that you have some comfort in your life you deserve it I don't believe in self love I think more in terms of you have to treat yourself as you would a friend you have to be on good terms with yourself there is no point hating yourself none at all

[fauxartist]

I think when we compare ourselves to others we wish we were more like, it can be very detrimental and destructive to our self esteem... the only thing I care about in someone really is if they have a good heart.... I don't care about great looks, or money, or stuff....I don't care about labels, or impressive jobs, or big house, new car or any of that. I want to be with my equal. Someone who thinks the way I do. I am no beauty, but I'm pleasant looking, my sister is model beautiful....but we never compare each other that way, she's my baby sister and I love her and she loves her big sister. Her kids are all out of a modelling magazine ...but I'm Auntie 'B' and they only feel love for me, a non-flashy dressing, simple older women who only has unconditional love to give them, and adore me as I adore them.

My partner loves me unconditionally, fat or slim, simple and plain....what counts is what's on the inside....and I believe if we allow ourselves to....we will find our soul mate out there, and there is someone for everyone....

I spent many a sad long year thinking I was destine to be alone and sad....but my disease lies and deceives me, I am lovable, and deserve to be loved as we all do. So be sure your not the one keeping the door closed in some way....open the windows and find that inner light that makes you ....'you'.... and know that when the time is right, and your accepting, someone will be there for you....just take your time to get to know them well.

And yes...your never too old.....I didn't find my soul mate till my late 50's..... I had a few relationships long term before that....but always knew something was missing....and I did some more growing up myself, and self awareness....and now after 7 years going, we are still together and still in love.

[RAYOFHOPE88]

Please don't be so hard on yourself. I'm VERY SOCIALLY AWKWARD and I have no boyfriend. You are not alone. I'm still in the process of becoming more comfortable around people. You are not alone. You'll find someone one day and break out of your shell. Want to talk? I'm here 🤗.