Bad couple of weeks

[moviefanatic410]

Hello. I’ve been suffering with anxiety and depression for a couple of years now, but now it seems to have gotten bad.

I feel like I am stuck in an endless rut while everyone around me seems to be moving on and enjoying their lives. In my friend group, I am the only one who isn’t dating someone and it seems like why even bother trying. I have tried the dating apps and have had no luck. I feel alone and lonely while everyone else is enjoying life. In my perfect world, I would wish everything would just stay the same, but I know that that is impossible and that everyone moves on with life (except me it feels like). I also work at a dead end job that I hate while seeing everyone else excel in their respective careers. I feel like I need to stop comparing myself to everyone else, but with social media I can’t seem to stop those thoughts. I don’t know what I can do to stop feeling like this, which is torture. I wake up with anxiety and fall asleep with it. Just doing the same thing over and over everyday doesn’t help it.

Sorry this is so wordy, but I feel like just getting this off my chest is something I need to do right now.

[MariaLove123]

You need to make some changes! And I know making even a small change is so hard, but there’s nothing wrong with taking baby steps. You obviously know what you need to change. I used to have a really tough time with comparing myself to others. I trained my brain to believe that I am where I’m supposed to be. I also learned that most of the people I was comparing myself to were actually unhappy in their marriage or career. You never know what goes on behind closed doors. You also never know who could be easily comparing themselves to you. A few things I did to keep myself from comparing myself to others: Don’t look at Facebook (maybe just a few times a week), Surround yourself with kind hearted and supportive people who make you feel good, Break off friendships that are doing more harm than good, Spend time with family and keep telling yourself that you can be happy.

You’ll meet the right person at the right time. It’s all about time. We are meant to do certain things, like find our perfect career, meet our soulmate, get married and have kids at the RIGHT time. I am 36 and I cannot believe how differently I feel from when I was in my 20’s. I am actually so glad I didn’t get everything I wanted. I wasn’t meant to. And for you, now is the time to work on yourself and work towards your goals. All the best 💜

[moviefanatic410 in reply to MariaLove123]

Thanks for the response! It is super hard for me to make changes, even if they are so small. It feels like a wall of anxiety comes down and it’s so hard for me to do anything different.

That’s my goal to work on myself. Hopefully that will help me to become a better version of myself. And feel a lot better.

[MariaLove123 in reply to moviefanatic410]

You are absolutely not alone with feeling anxiety about changes. People with mental illness find change to be the hardest challenge. It’s just so odd how we know the change will help; yet, we don’t want to it. I’ll never understand that about this illness 🙄

[moviefanatic410 in reply to MariaLove123]

Change is the worst part. I know it will help me but change always brings me anxiety. Thank you for helping me to understand that I am not alone in this, because sometimes it feels like you can be.

[MariaLove123 in reply to moviefanatic410]

You are so welcome. If you ever need to talk I’m here! I hope you feel better!