Severe depression & grief

[StarDog]

I have been feeling darkness just weighing so heavily on me depress/anx med don't help anyone..such overwhelming sadness I feel all the the time, just lost my dear Sis in Aug, we we're BF since kids, lost my dear hubby in accident we're both only 46, I am 68 never remarried..and this grief just much more harder to shake, I am overwhelmed I sleep allot I don't want to be with my friends and don't want to be with what's left of the family I grew up with...mom or younger sister..seem to have moved on...why can't I.

[BlueBelle06]

I am so sorry you’re going through this grief. I’ve never lost someone so close like you have, but if I did and couldn’t get through it, Id probably go to a grief counselor or grief support group for help if I could. Hoping you start healing soon. 🌸

[Hidden]

I am so very sorry for your losses.

I was very drawn to that lovely photograph..

Those smiles ...

I really hope in time you can find some peace ...

You deserve to.

Every good wish ❤️🌺🌺🌺

[Sprinkle1]

Hello, I hear your grief, everyone deals with it differently. I would get some books out of the library, I would search out a good therapist, and consider going to a support group. When I lost my Mother, it was sudden, I could not cope so went to a therapist, she helped me work thru my grief. She has been gone 9 years tomorrow, I will light some candles and play some nice music, I talk to her, and ask her opinion. When I am in the kitchen I talk to her and offer her a glass of wine, we used to do that together. I also talk to my friend Larry who was murdered 2 years ago, we were friends for over 30 years. I talk to my Friend Lina, she was my best friend for 27 years, the cancer took her from us. It gives me comfort to talk to them. Do what you can to help yourself, and that is getting outside help to Help you get thru this, we all move at our own pace, but you will come thru. I wish you well, sending you love and healing. Talk to us we will try to help you. Sprinkle 1........xx oo

[Tikirob]

I get so mad thinking of why people like yourself have to suffer like this! With all the loved ones you have lost it must feel like life has lost its realness. I think it’s normal for you not to move on so easily, it shows you have a great heart, you loved these people so much, so no medication can really treat that. I have no good advice except to say if you can find a way to do one thing you enjoy or used to enjoy please do it. It’s corny as hell but for an hour I took pictures of the sun setting. Right now it’s 2am and I am afraid to go to bed. I go to bed with the lights on by passing out from exhaustion, but for that hour watching the sun go down I did not think, I just smiled. You deserve a little joy amongst this sadness, you are a good person who has had to face a lot of heartache, bur those that love you would not want you to suffer forever. I am going to take a moment to reflect and ask the world to please give you a brake.

[LadyO4]

Trying to cope with grief is not easy, and if it appears that others have moved on in their life and left you behind, I think it's important to consider they may wired altogether differently than you, and maybe never dealt with the reality of sorrow the way you need to. I have watched that right in my own family.

For some people, the less they talk about personally distressing events seems to keep the pain further away making it easier to deal with. But you are not one of those people and deserve to work through your grief the way you need to.

I would like to suggest just one method for coping with grief - one that has been researched by counselors, therapists, and psychiatrists as well - and that is to start writing about your experiences, including all the details of what you remember and how they made you feel. Writing is a sort of self therapy, and lets you reconnect with this event in your life that has changed you for the purpose of beginning the healing process. Putting emotions down in words can reduce levels of stress - less anxiety means fewer stress hormones, which can interfere with chemicals needed for mental and emotional healing.

bit.ly/2FRXJjw will offer you mega doses of hope too. Be kind to yourself. Give yourself the room you need to walk through this sad time. Take one step at a time, knowing your loved ones would want the best for you.

[Hollick]

becuz your stuck and don't have a reason to move on...StarDog, I'm sorry about all this, it sounds dark, and unfortunately, to some measure, I can relate..especially not really wanting to see anyone...the paradox there, you don't really be alone either, that also sucks..wish I could say more, except, I hope we both see some brighter days, we deserve that don't we?