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I think is time to say goodbye

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This app suppose be here to help people or to reach out when u need help. But now I see there is a lot of rube people on this app if u post something and don’t want to be brother don’t post it am really thinking about deleting this app and I wish everybody the best of luck

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BonnieSue

Hi tamka,

I'm sorry that you've had a bad experience here. That's not usually the case. Is there anything I can help you with? I'll be here for awhile.

Hugs, Love, and Blessings...

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tamka38 in reply to BonnieSue

Am just very depressed and anxious and hoping my medication work soon

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BonnieSue in reply to tamka38

Oh, yes, a really rough time for sure. Distraction is a helpful thing.

what can you distract yourself with?

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tamka38 in reply to BonnieSue

Am watching tv

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BonnieSue in reply to tamka38

Will answer you in a minute, ok?

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BonnieSue in reply to tamka38

I apologize for the delay. I didn't want to not answer you right away, but someone called me...someone with whom we'd been trying to talk for several days.

TV works to a degree, it depends on how interested you are and how interesting the show is. 'Moving your muscles' is one way to help both the depression and the anxiety. If you can take a walk or move around so that you're active similar to going for a brisk walk, you'll reduce your stress and depression and anxiety a notch or so. It's not a huge recovery, but it does help relieve some of the misery.

Do you think you are breathing faster than normal due to anxiety?

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tamka38 in reply to BonnieSue

Am breathing normal I haven’t left my house in weeks or haven’t really left my couch

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BonnieSue in reply to tamka38

Ok, good. When I used to be anxious I'd find myself breathing faster than normal. A lot of people do. So slowing it down helps in that case. Maybe your anxiety isn't too severe?

Not leaving the house isn't so good. I don't know the weather where you are, though. Maybe you can't get out much? If possible, you will do better to move your body more and go places. I understand if you don't have much opportunity living with your relatives who aren't very welcoming. But maybe you can try to get out just in the neighborhood? You don't have school?

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tamka38 in reply to BonnieSue

My anxiety is severe and I don’t get panic attacks like I use too and right now depression and anxiety is through the roof and I been isolating myself at home for weeks and I only been on my new antidepressant for a week now it could just be the medication

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BonnieSue in reply to tamka38

Yes, it could. I guess I have to say that I'm not familiar with anxiety being severe where the person wasn't breathing too fast and slowing it down didn't help. You are a mystery to me.

Did you have an old antidepressant? And do you have school?

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tamka38 in reply to BonnieSue

Symptoms of an anxiety attack can include:

A feeling of overwhelming fear

Feeling of going crazy or losing control

Feeling you are in grave danger

Feeling you might pass out

A surge of doom and gloom

An urgency to escape

Dizziness

Heart Palpitations

Trembling

Sweating

Shortness of breath

Chest pressure or pain

Turning pale

Feeling detached from reality

Weak in the knees

Burning skin

Pins and needles

Hot and cold flushes

Numbness and tingling sensations

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BonnieSue in reply to tamka38

Yup. But usually you have an assortment of symptoms and it's hard to have most of them without increasing respirations. It's just a basic underlying symptom...but not in your case, as you said.

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tamka38 in reply to BonnieSue

My heart is beating fast and I been doing deep breathing I just don’t let myself have a full anxiety attacks no more I try to stop them before they get big because I use to get them a couple of days in the same day in run to the E.R. Now I try and do whatever to let it pass

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BonnieSue in reply to tamka38

I'm sorry that has been the case in the past. That's really tough to handle but you seem to be doing well.

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tamka38 in reply to BonnieSue

Am on a new antidepressant been on it for a week and do u have anxiety or depression or take medication?

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BonnieSue in reply to tamka38

Yes, for decades. MDD and now bipolar II, with GAD, PTSD and a little OCD. I've taken many different medications through the years.

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tamka38 in reply to BonnieSue

Are u on medication right now? I take zoloft Trazodone Xanax but don’t want to reply on Xanax I have GAD PTSD Clinical depression panic disorder

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BonnieSue in reply to tamka38

Yes, I take Cymbalta/duloxetine, Seroquel/quetiapine, Wellbutrin/bupropion and a bunch of other drugs for my old lady body. ;o)...not any more psyche drugs.

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BonnieSue in reply to tamka38

I don't blame you for not wanting to rely on Xanax..it's a temporary fix. The Zoloft and Trazodone should help but with GAD I think you're going to end up moving the Xanax to another longer-acting benzo.

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BonnieSue in reply to BonnieSue

I forgot...the Zoloft should start helping as soon as 2nd week but increasingly helpful for about 6-8 weeks then levels off.

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tamka38 in reply to BonnieSue

Have u try zoloft?

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BonnieSue in reply to tamka38

Yes, it worked fine for a couple of years. Then I transitioned to a similar drug. but always I was on a benzo at 4mg/day for the GAD. I didn't take myself off until almost 28 years later when my stress level went down a huge amount.

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tamka38 in reply to BonnieSue

My stress level is high

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BonnieSue in reply to tamka38

I'm sorry, that's miserable. But also that means you'll improve should you be in a situation where your stress level goes down. Mine went down hugely when my husband died. He had cancer and dementia and had become abusive. Since then I've reduced the number of drugs I take by almost half. I no longer even have 2 of my diagnoses that aren't psyche diagnoses.

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tamka38 in reply to BonnieSue

Great news to feeling better

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tamka38 in reply to BonnieSue

What benzo was u on

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BonnieSue in reply to tamka38

Last one was Klonopin/clonazepam, 1st one was Tranzene/clorazepate. Only 2 in all those years. But...after about 15-18 years on them I started to have memory problems. But my dad who has taken a benzo for as long has no memory problems. We all seem to be different. But I could never have functioned and worked and raised a family without the benzos. So I don't regret taking them.

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tamka38 in reply to BonnieSue

My psychiatrist wanted me to start with 100 mg but I called him back and ask to start off with 50 mg I try Prozac for 2 weeks and had bad side effects

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BonnieSue in reply to tamka38

Again, we're all different in some ways, aren't we? Prozac was my wonder drug. Worked amazingly well for about 12 years and then another 6-8 years after a break.

Sounds like you wanted to start low on the Zoloft because of your experience with the Prozac. That's wise but also may delay reaching your effective dose if you can tolerate it. But only delay by whatever interval he gives until increasing the Zoloft to 100 mgs.

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tamka38 in reply to BonnieSue

Yeah I was scared about the Prozac side effects

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BonnieSue in reply to tamka38

So they were fairly strong?

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tamka38 in reply to BonnieSue

The side effects was hot flashes probably cause had waited it out but I wanted to stop it

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BonnieSue in reply to tamka38

Only hot flashes or more side effects? Were they really strong and miserable?

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tamka38 in reply to BonnieSue

It was miserable for 3 days but I was on Prozac for 2 weeks I had hot flashes with zoloft and Friday made it a week but my doctor ask me to continue for 2 more weeks

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BonnieSue in reply to tamka38

It's very possible that whatever side effects you experience at 1st will reduce or go away completely once you get used to your SSRI or SNRI. Sometimes these drugs can make you feel somewhat hotter than normal but not always hot flashes. I hope they don't increase but decrease for you.

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tamka38 in reply to BonnieSue

They decrease but am just praying zoloft works for me because am tried and been dealing with this since 8 and self medicate off alcohol in my teen years until my adult years didn’t get help until 27 so am ready to live a normal life and be happy

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BonnieSue in reply to tamka38

Sure. You've been waiting a bunch of years to get stabilized?

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tamka38 in reply to BonnieSue

Zoloft should help with the anxiety

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BonnieSue in reply to tamka38

Yes, but don't be surprised if it's not enough. It's not you, it's because GAD is a major anxiety disorder, not just a minor one. If Zoloft handles it, all well and good. If it doesn't, don't blame yourself for not handling it better. That's all I'm trying to say.

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tamka38 in reply to BonnieSue

What u mean not enough am scared to take Trazodone

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BonnieSue in reply to tamka38

Not enough means you have anxiety left over after Zoloft reduces it. You never get the right amount of comfortable. Then you know it's not enough. Don't waste time waiting for it to work after your doc says you've reached your final dose ofZoloft or for a few weeks longer. Ask for a benzo in addition to the trazodone if the trazodone is for bedtime. The trazodone is usually for bedtime to sleep. I also was on that for many years along with the SSRI and benzo. trazodone is extremely commonly prescribed for sleep.

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BonnieSue in reply to BonnieSue

I forgot to say this...if the Zoloft doesn't cover all of your anxiety, you may need to tell your doc that you know you have a major anxiety disorder that often calls for a benzo. Docs seem to have a mandate to not prescribe them at 1st and wait until they see you need a benzo in addition to your antidepressant...which can leave you miserable while waiting and waiting...

And I've read that benzos aren't usually addicting in prescribed doses, but when people take huge amounts of them.

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tamka38 in reply to BonnieSue

I have Xanax

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BonnieSue in reply to tamka38

True, but it seems hard to regulate. Not for everybody but for many people. Maybe for you it will work out. With GAD you often need round-the-clock coverage and Xanax in prescribed doses can be not enough for that coverage. When I took it, it worked between 2-4 hours or so. When I took the other benzos I mentioned they lasted 8 hours. Having said that, I know some information will say Xanax is good for 8 hours but it never got close for me.

That was a good observation to remind me of the Xanax. I tend to write it off as temporary and low dosage.

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tamka38 in reply to BonnieSue

U right Xanax is temporary

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tamka38 in reply to BonnieSue

Am not in school am a old woman with adult Son’s

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BonnieSue in reply to tamka38

Ahhh, me too!

Please don't let a few rude people outweigh the multitude of genuine, kind, compassionate people that are here.

It doesn't have to be perfect...just enough.

You matter.

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U right thank you

in reply to tamka38

I love quotes and earlier you posted a few. It helped me.

You helped me.

You matter. Stick around.

Your voice is needed.

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tamka38 in reply to

Awww thank you

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aaronm

I agree that there are a few very rude people here and its quite disturbing but they are only a few. We are friends and I truly hope you stay. Please don't let them bring you down. You can message me anytime.

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tamka38 in reply to aaronm

Awwww thank you

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kenster1

hi my friend you are very most welcome on here and valued by everyone.you came here for a reason and hope to help you see this reason through.please don't say goodbye because you came here for a reason and that was to help/support others.if your seeing things that make you feel uncomfortable then I agree with your choice but we hope you will stay.

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tamka38 in reply to kenster1

Thank you

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kenster1 in reply to tamka38

no worries please remember you will always have our support.dont ever say goodbye unless it is to he past say hello to the future and always try and look forward.

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tamka38 in reply to kenster1

Ok 👌🏾

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Fishmonster

No matter where we go in life there’s always those few rude people that ruin it for everyone else

I have only met the most kindest and loving people here

Life is a roller coaster we are on it no matter what we just have to learn how to deal with the highs lows ups and downs twists and turns

look in the mirror and tell that person I love you

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tamka38 in reply to Fishmonster

U right thank you

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tamka38

No psyche drugs

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Agora1

tamka, sending big hugs your way.

You are loved. :) xx

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tamka38 in reply to Agora1

Thank you

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tamka38

So u off medication? U said no more psyche drugs?

Heruga profile image
Heruga

If what I said to you in the PM offended you I'm sorry. Now please don't think about leaving. Although this place is has a lot of jealous people who compete for popularity, there are some that actually want to help. And you yourself is one of them.. I was really happy to see your positive post on my threads. I think you are a very valued member of this community.

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tamka38 in reply to Heruga

Awwwww thank you I really appreciate your kind words it means a lot to me am just always worrying about everything and since starting zoloft I just wont to know someone who have tried it because at first I wasn’t going to try it because I had bad side effects to Prozac and I had taking medication that’s why I never tried Trazodone and am still scared to take Xanax but am so happy for u because I have faith and I do believe in miracles I hope u still come on and keep us updated on your progress good luck 👍

Sending kind wishes your way 🌺🌺 xx

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Thank u I really appreciate it

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💕💕🌺🌺 x

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🙏🏾🙌🏾🤗❤️🦋🌺💙💕🌸🎄💕

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Bird-67

Hello tamka38,

I take Sertraline which is the generic form of Zoloft I believe.

I am now being weaned off them as they help the depression but not the anxiety.

I also take Trazadone to help me sleep and they work well for that.

Good luck with the Zoloft and I am here for you too x

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fauxartist

who has been rude to you..... I have talked to you quite a bit and read all the others comments....what happened.

in reply to fauxartist

Hi Faux, Think it’s possibly against rules to name names and details...on the open forum..

We are asked to report ??

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giulianaD

I agree, people here are scared and prob just need to vent. I got it from a few people as well. U have to let that go and be the good person you are.

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anxiousgirl7

I’m here for you

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tamka38 in reply to anxiousgirl7

Thank you 🙏🏾

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MariaLove123

Ignore what bothers you! There are good people and good advice on here! You’ve come so far already with your sobriety. It just takes a while to recover fully from addiction. You know I went through it. I know you’re doing better than you think. And I’m always here for you! You know that. Xo 😘

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tamka38 in reply to MariaLove123

Thank you very much I really appreciate it

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