Something I need to say: This site is not meant to be some kind of dating app!!!

I appreciate all the support on this place, I think it's great. And I'm quite willing to chat with people, male or female about different issues and problems related to depression and anxiety, and people can post whatever they want, we all have free will here!!! However, I just think I need to say that this is really meant to be a safe place for people to share things and after a questionable experience I had of someone trying to get my phone number, I'm not on here for that type of thing, I'm here to give support as well as to try to get some help for myself too. That's all I have to say.

[Agora1]

Googoodollsfan, it does happen at times. It is up to each one of us to protect ourselves

from any harm. It's always your decision as to what you want to share privately with

another member. Be cautious, stay safe. xx

[Hidden in reply to Agora1]

Thank you, I think you're one of the nicest people on here. ☺

[Agora1 in reply to Hidden]

Thank you, you are very kind.

Thank you for your post. It's important to keep all our members

safe especially our young ones. Wishing you a goodnight xx

[hypercat54 in reply to Hidden]

Yes she is.

[Laurennnnnnn]

Omg yes!!!! I can’t believe it has to be said but I’ve had the same thing happen (and I’m VERY pushy ways) on here. One of the reasons I liked this app at first is bc I could post without guys trying to get at me but apparently I was wrong

[Mary-intussuception in reply to Laurennnnnnn]

Report them

[Hidden]

Sorry you have had that experience. As you say, it isn't the place for that. It's a difficult one though. Sometimes, after chatting with someone for a while, you can form a natural affinity with someone and perhaps want to extend that friendship. I don't know your circumstances so can't see whether that was the case . Take care

[Ladybug9]

I agree with you 100 percent!! And I would block that person immediately. You are right this is NOT a dating site... I hope it's not who I think it is.. I'm here for you sweety.

[Sillysausage234]

Thing is I’ve been on here awhile now ...and you get chatting sometimes and pm each other and friendships develop in a supportive way doesn’t always have to be depressed stuff ...I love them all 😄honest women are the best I find most people are honest with feelings here ......dating sites have one sole purpose I think ,....ps agora gave me her phone number as a Christmas present last year ..

[Dolphin14 in reply to Sillysausage234]

Oh wait... are you taking numbers? I will give you mine

[Sillysausage234 in reply to Dolphin14]

Thank you dolphin 14 ...ide like that please

....if you unmute me I’ll send you some more poems

[Dolphin14 in reply to Sillysausage234]

Hahaha.... so funny. I just read further down where you and hypercat54 are meeting up.

Write a poem for her she will love it

We should leave things as is. Mute on.

Take care 💕

[Hidden in reply to Sillysausage234]

Obviously I'm not saying who it was, and of course it was a bit flattering that he wants my phone number. However, after I literally spelled out that I'm not on here to date anyone, he keeps trying to badger me about it because now he sees me as a challenge or something and I was becoming very uncomfortable and I had to terminate the conversation!!! So that's how I felt about that. It's not like I absolutely never would, but as I stated on here, that isn't my intent for being here. Since I relate everything to some kind of song, that experience would go down as Meghan Trainors song, My name is NO!!!!!

[Sillysausage234 in reply to Hidden]

Oh yeah ....not good that’s harassment just mute him ,take into account where we are he may have learning difficulties or something...did he just appear on your pm?

[Mary-intussuception]

Report them

[hypercat54]

I agree to report them. I had a guy once here who not only wanted my phone number but also my address. He then said he was a truck driver who lived around 50 miles away and wanted to come and visit me when he was in my area!

Unfortunately a few random men (never known a woman to do this) join sites such as this trying to get sex. We women sometimes get unwanted male attention in the real world, so an online site is no different I guess. There is a current member who has said he joined here to meet women. Yuck.

[Hidden in reply to hypercat54]

Yes, I hear what you're saying. And then I become really uncomfortable posting anything more about myself on here. No likes to be targeted.

[hypercat54 in reply to Hidden]

It won't help with existing members but for more privacy it's a good idea to lock your posts to this community only.

[Sillysausage234 in reply to hypercat54]

I was chatting to a woman on here for a while....she was always wanting a phone conversation......after awhile I sensed something not right about her and put some distance between us ....she flipped out and got really vile ....I had to mute her .....so works both ways hypercat lady

[hypercat54 in reply to Sillysausage234]

I would give you my phone no. anytime darling 😀 wanna meet up? Lol xx

[Sillysausage234 in reply to hypercat54]

yes I do ....it’s your turn to buy the fish and chips .....in all seriousness not sure what reporting this particular person will do best to just mute him hopefully he gets the message and dosent offend anyone else .....what would reporting him achieve ?

[hypercat54 in reply to Sillysausage234]

Ok (resigned to forking out dosh) I guess you are worth it... 😁🧡 xx

[mrhealthanxiety]

So true this is not a dating app, but just looking at it from both sides you did write a post a few day ago saying why don’t people chat on the phone anymore rather than FB / texting etc.....maybe the said person didn’t mean it in a dating way ? .....just a thought but nonetheless sorry for you if this person caused any stress.

[hypercat54 in reply to mrhealthanxiety]

Women saying why don't people chat on the phone any more is NOT a general invitation for men to hassle you for private details and probably sex. We women know the difference even if some men don't!

[mrhealthanxiety in reply to hypercat54]

When did I say in my reply it was an invitation ? And more importantly at what point did the original poster say she was hassled for sex ?? My point being the poster was saying people don’t talk on the phone anymore, 2 days later she saying someone asked for her number.....that’s all my point was - now you are bringing sex into it ? ...

[hypercat54 in reply to mrhealthanxiety]

She said a man keeps badgering her for her number making her feel uncomfortable. This can feel threatening to a woman and is very different to asking her once and accepting no. In my experience (and most women's I imagine) a man continually pestering a woman like that is only after 1 thing.

I think we will have to agree to differ on this.

[mrhealthanxiety in reply to hypercat54]

But I’m not saying it’s right what this person has done in asking for her number - I was merely stating maybe he miss read the situation originally regarding the post to talk more on the phone. If he has further hassled the person of course it’s wrong but again my original reply was just looking at it from both sides - no more no less, not all men are the same !

[hypercat54 in reply to mrhealthanxiety]

Well the last bit I do agree with. Unfortunately coz a few men are we have to be cautious.

[Hidden]

If he is bothering you, block him

[detour13]

Hey now there's an idea .. Panic attack match.. We could make a lot of money!!! Lol are you anxious and suffer from panic attacks let's match you up lol... your absolutely correct.. But perhaps he or she just wanted to offer support.. It really helps when you have someone to call or text during an attack..

[LilyAnnepuppy]

These terms are good to know. Thanks Faux.

[Hidden]

sorry that happened.........why i try never to initiate......if someone wants to be freinds......today......they will call u ish.........otherwise.......respect privacy.....just because someone is kind .......they are being supportive.......not asking for a relathhionship........totally agree.....