Like many teachers, I am good at dishing out wisdom but have to work at using that wisdom on myself. Listen, I have bad days too.
One night recently, OCD hit me hard, which triggered barrels of anxiety. But a long time ago, I was given a great tool to use against OCD, which I’d like to share with you.
The OCD thoughts mostly come in the form of a “what if” question, so I beat OCD at its own game. I repeat in my head or out loud, “I don’t know” to all of OCD’s “what if” questions. I don’t let my mind think about any alternative answers other than, “I don’t know.”
OCD asks, “What if that front door isn’t really locked?” I say, “I don’t know.”
OCD asks, “What if you get sick and can’t get well?”
I say, “I don’t know.”
OCD asks, “What if your loved ones get ill and it’s your fault?”
I keep calm and say again, “I don’t know.”
Bullies ask pretty dumb questions when trying to intimidate you. But if your only response is “I don’t know,” you aren’t play- ing their game. You have. to be like a stubborn mule that won’t budge.
The next time OCD presents a “what if” question to you, try responding with “I don’t know.”
If you don’t engage with the bully, you’ll find some freedom.