Hi again! I just need to chat and get out my job frustrations. I hope you all can understand. Last nights shift was hectic. I'm struggling to remember residents and their needs. The ppl who train me don't tell me much and like last night the other two cnas went hiding in laundry room chatting it up. I caught them eventually and just feel like such a failure and that no one ever gives me the time of day. I'm not mean and say nice things to ppl so how does that make me so worthless? I feel so low and don't want to go in tonight. I will but don't want to deal with the same person again tonight!! The other tonight was cool to me and she's working tonight. Hopefully she will still be nice to me but you never know! Ill just do the best I can cause that's all I can do right??? I appreciate everyone that has sent me kind words and best wishes cause I really need it!!!😄😄 Anyhoo thanks again to you all. If anyone has advice on how to get thru situations like this I would love to hear from you!! Oh plus I'm working with 19 to 24 year olds. That's a nightmare in its own plus they are Mormons. They tend to be clickish and that makes me feel like the outsider all the time. They look me up and down like God your such a loser!! Anyhoo any advice would be big time appreciated!!! Thank you😄😄😎😎🌸🌺
Memory care center job..... - Anxiety and Depre...
Memory care center job.....
I know you are not worthless ! No one is. It's your brain playing tricks on you. Look in the mirror every time before you go to work and tell yourself " I am a valuable person and just as important as anyone else ". Good luck and build up your self-confidence with the above thoughts. Hope this will help you. Hugs
It would help but this bitch that works here makes me know every time like literally 5 minutes ago that oh she likes working with Kay but hint hint not you meaning me. I hate her sooooo much. I'm always stuck working with her and I feel so hated and just want to quit if I have to keep working with her. She barely helps me and makes me always know that she hates me!! Shell go with the other aide and hide in the laundry room. Like yea thanks bitch!!! Not sure I can take it anymore. I'm awful with the residents and not as good as the others. I just wish I could die and never come back!!! Sorry its just painful!!!
I worked in a nursing home some years ago and also had to work with another cna that was a real bitch. What I did is report her when she slapped a resident. She eventually got fired when there were more complaints about her.
I wish I could but she's good with the residents but is just a real bitch to me. She texts and loves the other ppl but makes sure she hints enough toward me that she hates me big time!!! I'm like fuck you ya bitch!!! I'm having severe problems with memory and can't seem to remember anyone's name or their needs. I should be a resident cause I just know I've got a bit of dementia too. I hate myself so much right now. How long did you work at that nursing home? Are you still a CNA or nurse or are you working different job??
Was a CNA for about 3 yrs in the nursing home and then left there because I couldn't stand the way residents were treated !! Went into private care in peoples home and really liked that. Retired now. Are you in a position to get residents names put on their doors ?? Write down their names ( I'm terrible at remembering names) and their needs in a notebook and review and update that book as it needs it every chance you get. Try to ignore the bitch, her opinion of you doesn't matter she is a bully and can see she's able to get to you. Don't allow her to have that power.. I know easier said than done !
Hugs and more hugs
By the way , I don't really think you have dementia,but I'm not a doctor. You are probably just stressed out and that can make it hard to remember everything. Are you putting things like your remote into the freezer or can't remember what you ate an hour ago ? I've seen people with dementia do those kind of things, or does this happen mostly at work ?
Lol no not doing those types of things but just don't understand why more than a few names are so hard to remember. I'm only 46 in two months and should not be struggling this hard to do stuff. I have a few learning disabilities that I've struggled with my whole life tho. Everything is so hard for me to learn. Its been such a struggle and is quite difficult to deal with. School was a massive embarrassing hurtful experience!!! Adult life has been just as bad too! I do have memory problems with life in general. I forget if my mom is at work and end up texting her forgetting she's busy at work. Its stupid things like that. It has ruined my life!! No short term memory whatsoever. I feel like dementia is right around the corner!!😳😳😬😬
Oh wow yea that's what I was doing in Vegas where I just moved from. I was only doing home care. I miss my dear Natalie that passed away on my shift 2 years ago. She will be missed by all her caregivers!!! CNA 3 years that's cool!! You were probably the best CNA ever!! Home care is so much less pressure! I haven't work in a nursing home since like 2001 so just working this assisted living memory care center is way more intense than the one on one care! I love getting to know the person individually!! Hearing their stories! I did just what you said on my 3rd shift. I wrote down who was in each section, room number and names. I wrote down main needs and will study that while off the next 6 days. Thank God its part time cause that bitch drives me CRAZY!!! I will do my best to ignore her cause I pretty much do anyways😄😄 thanks for your kindness!! Eternity HUGS!!!
We really do have a lot of things in common ! You are so right, private care was so rewarding. I had a gentleman that had sizophnia ( what a word to spell , which I didn't ) and he was so gentle and funny. I loved him. Then had a gentleman that had had a stroke and last had a gal that was a horder and helped her in her move to a new place. Trying to get her to throw anything away was quite a challenge ! I'm so happy that you are getting a handle on having to work with the bitch. Hugs back to you and you WILL see that you are strong enough to ignore what that battle-ax thinks. She must be one miserable person and taking it out on you.
Oh my gosh that's so wonderful the ppl you've helped. Yea home care is way more rewarding!! Its great to have the time to get to know them versus here you have to run around so much not getting much time to chat with the residents. I did sit with Paul for about a half hour and he eventually went and laid down and I gave him 2 hugs and he was smiling when finally relaxing in bed. We sure do have lots in common. Pretty cool really!! You be been such a Humungous help and also understanding the job as well has been great!!! Yea that bitch angers me to no end but I do my best to ignore her but sometimes have to ask her for help which kills me horribly!!# lol.
Does she help you when you ask ? The witch I was working with would say I'm too busy with my own residents!! I thought just ask me for help again and you will get that response right back and I did !
Oh dear Lord!! What a bitch like you said!!!' It is horrible when women doing this job treat the elderly so shitty! I hear so many horror stories! Sorry you had to deal with her. Last night or more this morning I asked for her help but she sent in Jeff instead. I'm like oh its going to be like that huh??? I hate her. She was helpful for two days but they all expect you to know 40 some residents and their needs in one to two days! I'm stupid and with no memory its going to take me a little bit longer to figure stuff out. Iv e been out of facility work that its just so overwhelming compared to home care! Plus its all Alzheimer's residents who are extremely violent and so very confused. Its so sad. Oh but like you said about your psycho saying she was to busy Ambree the bitch just goes and hides in the laundry room with other aides so I can't find anyone to help when needed. Its like thanks a lot bitches!!! Ugh. Nightmare!!' They are all 19 to 24 on NOC shift! Sucks!!!
I’m sorry to hear this lovedogs 😞 starting a new job it can take a while to ‘fit in’ with some people , humans do tend to be cliquey unfortunately...it must feel so awful for you, and doesn’t help our self esteem....
If there is any way you can just do your job and get to know the residents and needs, maybe have a little note book in your pocket and jot down a couple of things you would like to remember ...soon you will be an expert at who they are and what they need...believe me...the other staff are possibly testing you a bit too, not nice I know, and it’s a shame people do this..as much as you can just do the job..be pleasant and if you need help ask..hopefully they will get used to you and you will be part of it all...it’s so difficult I understand...
If anyone is nasty or bullying you do have the option to report them, no one should have to be bullied..
You have not been there long at all..please try not to be hard on yourself...those that aren’t being welcoming to you have their own issues....and things can change when we least expect...
Sending positive vibes your way....for peace and harmony in the workplace ...keep those words close to you xx
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Oh thank you so very much!!! Its been a hard time dealing with Ambree that's the bitch. Never thought of it the way you said as far as testing me. I just think they are sick of me not remembering things! I have signs of dementia myself and I'm only 46!!! Let me send this before I lose it if my mom calls
Yes , don’t give up hope of it working out ok...
Stick with it...I say that knowing it’s difficult...
Once they feel they are used to you being around in the fold...hopefully things will change...it’s not you, but they don’t know you yet...
It’s dificult to be kind but assertive , that’s what I would be...
Kind, assertive , tranquil ,and peaceful...words to remember 😊
And most certainly don’t blame yourself....
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Ill do that for sure! Ill definitely remind myself to just keep trying cause that's all I can do!! Its so hard not to blame myself when all I do is forget such small things. I hate being so stupid. Learning has always been serious problems for me!!! Everyone seems to pick up stuff super easy and it feels like chemistry to me!!! Ugh
Hopefully it will eventually all be second nature...if we do something often enough...you’ve not been there long at all lovedogs, anyone would also struggle remembering...and if your anxious and worried then learning takes longer ...
Xxx
I did take a notebook in last night and wrote down residents room #, names and needs like you said. You would think that would help but I'm having serious dementia cause I'm having serious issues remembering just a few names alone!!!
All I want is to be able to do my job and that's it but with all these memory problems I may lose my job. I'm going to try memory support pills. If I can afford them.
Hope it goes ok...I’m sorry for your memory struggles...
Do reach out for help with it if you feel it’s affecting things, as I know you will.....the notebook is a help for sure, to check back on..
Hugs to you love dogs xxx
Yes I will and hope the notebook helps too. Thank you and HUGS back to you too!!! Have a beautifully blessed day!😄😄
Xxx
Thanks so much for the good vibes, peace and harmony!! I sure could use the well wishes!!! Your a dear like everyone here for taking the time to help me thru this tough time!!!!
Always will help, I’ve had issues in the workplace that made me rather ill, so realise how awful it can make us feel,
We can only try so much sometimes...
It’s so soon for you to beat yourself up, I’m really hoping it goes ok and it can xxx
Thank you so much!!!! Hoping for the best!!!!
Really good advice here and I think the notepad is something you could do, but make sure they dont see you putting stuff down or make sure it cant be recognised as a patient, confidentiality and all that. Concentrate on your work, you dont have to be liked. When they see they cannot affect you they will stop. Its their way of being in control and is a form of bullying. If it carries on be brave and go to your manager and explain the situation. They must hate their jobs and are enjoying how they are making you feel, try not to show your feelings and keep busy.
They all know I've written down names and stuff. They all seem to be ok with it cause I was worried about that too. But I did write everything down on my third shift which was only two days ago. I just hope it will help!! I'm desperate so I don't lose this job. As far as the bitches there they are all super cool to each other and they do bully me and I just ignore the mean ones but just sucks to have to call on them for help. I just want to get this down so I can do my own section without needing their help at all ya know. Just frustrated with not remembering stuff. Picking up memory support pills in a day or so! Praying they will help even a tiny bit!! Thanks for your advice and support!!!!😄😄
Just focus in the patients
They make it all worthwhile
It’s such a rewarding field - ignore the nonsense
I agree the residents are neat but with the Alzheimer's they can be violent but I know their just confused. Its really sad to see what Alzheimer's can do to such wonderful ppl. I try my hardest but the other CNAs are just mean to me cause I can't remember the residents names, room numbers or needs yet. I'm working with seriously scary short term memory problems. So when I ask for help they barely help. The rest of the shift they go hide in the laundry room away from me and talk shit. Ill keep trying to deal with them but its pretty tough. They are cliquish and all talk and laugh together as I'm standing there looking at the ground or looking at ppwk. I hate all of them but can't let them get to me!!! I'm not Mormon so they treat non Mormons like shit!!! Anyhoo sorry to ramble!! Thanks for the advice!!
Hi Lovedogs.
I’m so sorry for how they are with you...
If it gets so bad...would you think speaking to,them and being honest would,help...telling them you would love to be around and learn the job but you don’t feel part of the group...
Just a thought and I guess only you could get a possible feel for how that might work...sometimes it can get to a stage were it’s that bad it’s worth a try...
Xx
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