Hey guys I’m new here and i don’t know what to say I’ve been dealing with so much for so long and decided I needed to talk about it. So yeah here goes... my mom died when I was 3 and I didn’t really know her but it’s still messed up. My brother sister and Dad moved all over till my sister was like 15 and wanted to live with my grandparents and my dad and brother were left and I was the youngest. When I was about 9, my sister was visiting me and she was telling me that she was going to be moving to Virginia to become an FBI agent and it sounded very exciting. I went to the museum with my friends one day and when I came home, I had found her murdered in the back room. 5 months later my dad died too. I’m now 16 and It’s me and my older brother now, but he joined the navy and I never see him. I feel so alone in this world.
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Hi DellaF
I wanted to say welcome to you and that I’m so sorry for your struggles and the awful things you have experienced.What a lot has happened around you.
I do hope you have the guidance and support to help with how you feel right now. I’m so so sorry to hear about the losses in your family and what has happened.
I’m sending comforting wishes your way xxx
Hi DellaF,
You have been through so much in your young life. I'm so deeply sorry for all of your losses. I have a daughter your age, and another one who is 14. Being a teen is tough enough without anxiety or depression or difficult life circumstances. Talking with the folks here is a fantastic way to connect to others. You are definitely not alone.
Tell us a little more about yourself- Who are you living with now? Do you have a therapist/counselor/someone you can talk to? What do you do to manage your stress/worry- music? A sport?
If you want, you can send out a "poll" message on this site. That is a very good way to drum up conversation. Ie Poll- what is your favorite sports team? You will make connections in no time. Again- you are definitely not alone.
I don't know if you believe in a Higher Power but I do - and I am keeping you in my prayers tonight
Thanks for caring. To answer you’re questions, I’m living with my aunt and uncle but they kinda act like I’m a hurt puppy 😅 I don’t have a therapist or anything like that. I actually do listen to music constantly and it does help.
Thanks -D
Hi Della,
Somehow my 1st message to you got lost. I'm trying again because you're worth it! ;o)
I'm sorry to hear of so much loss in your young life. That's a lot for you to handle and you seem to be doing fairly well. I second the idea that a counselor would be a good idea for you. Do you have one? This would be someone you talk to who supports you and helps guide you through the tough times. I love my counselor, she's fantastic!
Your brother and a son of mine are in the same Navy. That means he should be able to email you and keep up with you as soon as he's allowed. Phone calls, too, depending on whether he has his own phone or has to share. If he's still in basic training, he might have to wait a few weeks. I hope you and he keep close contact.
Are you in foster care? If so, this may seem too soon, but I know a program near me that will help you tremendously when you turn 18 yrs. of age and get emancipated. I don't want you worrying about that. I'll help you out and see that you're okay.
Take care, write to me if you want to. Anytime. Hugs, Love, and Blessings...
Hey Bonnie, thanks for caring about what I have to say. To answer your questions I don’t have a counselor I don’t really have a ton of money for that sort of thing. And yeah I talk to my brother but I just wish I could actually see him more. I’m not in foster care I live with family but they aren’t the most welcoming.
Hmmm, not so great for you, is it? I'm so glad your music is a big help. I know I love mine and some of it is so good, such good beat, that I have to get up from my laptop and dance to it even though I'm alone. Actually, I really enjoy myself because I'm alone and can do what I want.
Counselors are available on a sliding scale if you look for them at psychologytoday.com. You can also read about what they specialize in and how close they are and other things about them. It lets you get a feel for their personality. A LMHC (Licensed Mental Health Counselor) is cheaper than a psychologist (PhD). Psychiatrists don't counsel much anymore. It's really worth what ever frequency you can go. Except at 1st you need to get to know them and they you.
The support is very important and since you don't have caring relatives, it's going to be even more important over the years. It may not sound like it but it is.
Blessings...