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Feeling 'Alone'

This is my first post...I am here because i feel very alone when it comes to dealing with my depression/anxiety. Lately, my anxiety is at an all time high. I can't even focus on the things i need to do to treat it...like exercising, meditating, etc. It's extremely hard. By the late afternoon, i finally have it under control. However, i waste like most of the day away doing nothing. My friends and family don't know about my depression or anxiety because they aren't the most understanding or supportive people. I already feel bad enough and vulnerable for having this condition. The last thing i need is to feel worse about it. Recently, I confided in my mom about my condition...lets just say she doesn't get it. Hence, the reason why I am here on this site. I just want to feel better. To have more of a productive life. To feel less alone when dealing with this condition.

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HELLO, CHEER UP TAKE ONE DAY AT A TIME AND THINGS WILL FALL INTO PLACE HAVE YOU THOUGHT ABOUT THERAPY ARE SOME TYPE OF TREATMENT I 'M IN BOTH AND ITS GREAT IM DOING WELL GOOD LUCK DEAR HAVE A GREAT WEEK.

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Hi!

Thanks for the support!

Ummm, well about the therapist thing. I’ve been wanting to see a therapist for many years now. Unfortunately, I don’t have the insurance or finances for one. 😕

I am consistently researching for free therapy sessions, but I get no where.

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I JUST GOT A BRAINSTORM WHAT ABOUT A CHURCH THERE SOME THAT OFFER THAT SERVICE WOULD YOU DO SOMETHING LIKE THAT I HOPE IM NOT BEING TO PUSHING IM JUST TRYING TO HELP DEAR TAKE CARE

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It seems that for the most part, people who have not personally experienced anxiety are unable to understand what we go through, even when they want to. I can't talk to my family, friends, co-workers or anyone about it because it's beyond their comprehension. And so I started coming on here, and it's been a huge help. I've been able to compare notes with others and get good insight and advice, and most importantly, not feel completely alone anymore. I'm really glad you found us.

A quick question, when you do your meditation, do you do guided meditations using an app? I tried meditating on my own but couldn't do it, but I am able to using the Headspace app. I'm halfway through a group of 30 meditations on managing anxiety, and I think it's helping me to train my mind and get anxiety and panic more under control.

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Hi!

I usually meditate on my own, however, it’s clearly not working anymore for me. You mentioned Headspace app...I have never heard of it. I’ll give it a try. I hope it’s free! 🤞

Thank you! 🙂

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Headspace is free in the beginning but eventually you have to subscribe to continue. This article lists a lot of free apps though:

bebrainfit.com/meditation-a...

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Thanks!

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This is my first post too, as I just signed up. But I saw this and I am feeling the same way. The loneliness is debilitating. And what is worse is feeling guilty for having depression, which isn't fair, because people with physical illnesses are not made to feel guilty. But our illness is invisible and therefore not understood. Perhaps it makes you feel less alone to know that you are not the only one feeling completely alone? I have troubles feeling worthless and unlovable, and having loved ones get angry at me for my illness only makes those feelings stronger.

Recently I was having one of those very lonely painful days and I found the Depression Text Hotline. You can Google it. While I wouldn't call it a therapy session, it is someone you can text with who will support you and give you the kind words you need. I was also given a long list of potential coping actions.

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You described it very well. The guilt is pretty bad. It’s like a never ending rabbit hole. You just keep feeling worse and worse.

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If you don’t mind me asking. What are the coping actions?

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Certainly! It is nothing earth-shattering, but perhaps one or two will hit the mark and give us temporary relief when it gets to be unbearable.

yourlifeyourvoice.org/pages...

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Hello and welcome to the group!

Sorry for the delayed response after liking your post. You can find lots of wonderful people here who are willing to share their experiences and willing to listen. My inbox is open to everyone even if I don’t always have advice I at least read every message.

I know it seems hard or maybe even impossible but by staying strong and focusing on small positive steps things can definitely improve.

I keep getting distracted so I’m going to leave it at that for now. Welcome again and best of luck in everything! 🙂

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Hi,

you came to the right place. I understand fully what you are going through. I have anxiety and depression associated with a constant tension headache for a very long time. The tension headache and other physical symptoms were directly related to my anxiety and depression. Non of my family or friends fully understood what i was going through internally. Initially even my medical doctors did not fully understood and they were treating me for tension headaches which non of the pills helped. On my own i started to do some research and concluded that my headaches and physical symptoms were related to anxiety. I started to read many self help books which calmed me down and helped me to deal with the symptoms. I was able to cope with it for a very long time until i decided to get some help from a therapist which recommended to see a psychiatrist for some prescription medication.

Presently i am taking Klonazepam at night to help with sleep and Bupropion during the day for help with depression. I feel much better now but i still practice other forms of relaxation techniques like yoga, meditation, exercise and a change in attitude to appreciation life and gratitude. All these tools help in making my life more joyful and learn how to deal with the ups and downs of the daily stresses.

Wish you the best.

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I think many people feel the same as you because depression is a cruel disease with no outward signs or scars to show, so anyone looking at you has no comprehension of what is taking place below the surface. Yes, that does make you feel all alone.

If your friends and family cannot, or will not, take the time to understand your life, then please protect yourself and avoid trying to make them see what it's like to face each day with this overwhelming struggle. Is there a support group, pastor, or Christian counselor that you can visit with? Try your very hardest to seek out some healthy interaction with someone who is equipped to help you.

And please do not feel bad about your condition - attaching yourself with others, who can encourage you and bless you, will give you a boost of confidence and motivation.

amzn.to/2OB83AH is a tool that will give you hope.

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