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Helper Needs A Little Help

JEG325
JEG325

Hi everyone. I usually am everywhere helping everyone else on this site. But, today I'm depressed and sad myself. I am leaving my home of the last 6 months and moving on to a new place. While at this home I met a remarkable lady named Moriah. I am 57 and she is almost 25. She was my counselor from day 1 and a more fortunate turn of events could not have happened. At first my attitude was that I wasn't gonna trust her or let her in. After all I was very physically sick as well as mentally off balance. But, something strange began to happen over time. As I got atronger physically and mentally, I began to realize this young lady really cared. After that I decided to roll the dice and trust her. What a good choice. We started having some marathon length discussions, one of which ran 2 hrs & 40 minutes. Several others ran over 2 hours in length. My counselor was very religious but, didn't hold the fact that I was only moderately religious against me. When I needed to vent she let me, when I needed a quiet talk, she gave it to me. When I needed to cry out some hurt, she let me do that too....Today, 6 months later from the time I met her, I am much stronger both physically and mentally. Unfortunately, my time under her loving care has ended. I'm pretty devastated about leaving her, although it's necessary for me to progress with my life. I'm also frazzled and on edge about the actual moving. The double whammy is giving me a rough time. Interestingly, one of the reasons I came on this site was to emulate her care for me by caring for others myself. I wanted to give back in honor of her positive effect on me. Feeling pretty down right now. Any words of advice?

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Hello my friend!

Is it possible for you to maintain contact with this wonderful friend of yours? It won't be the same, of course, but perhaps staying connected to her in some way will be possible? She sounds like a gem...

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to Calm_mama

Hey, beautiful spirir called, Calm_Mama. Yes, she has said that I can reach out to her periodically. She is very busy and can be hard to get ahold of. I also have her email address and could try going at it that way too. Part of me argues that I should cut ties comletely and try to move on. But, how do you cut someone like that out of your life? I really, really, appreciate your concern.

Calm_mama
Calm_mama in reply to JEG325

You can always decide later whether to cut ties or try to have a modified, more distant relationship, yes? And don't forget, wherever you are going next, you will connect magnetically with others, no doubt about that. You are a lively, feisty, enthusiastic, passionate and raw soul- all such wonderful things :) I'm wishing you so much excitement and joy on this next journey you are taking...

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to Calm_mama

Calm_mama, the more I hear from you, the more I love you. I'm already in my new place. I feel lonely as heck here. It's hard to be fieisty when you're all alone. But, I just met my new roommate, Isaac and I liked him right away. I also was just talking on the phone to two of my friends from the previous place and that helped. I'm gonna have to find something to do or I'm gonna go stircrazy in a hurry. You can't go from being a well liked someone with a solid identity to ?. One thing is for sure. I cherish everything you suggest.

moving is up there as one of the most stressful things in life have you done a checklist make sure everything is boxed and ready.your support worker sounds really cool and took the time to help you through darker times.draw on the things she help you with and implement them into your current situation.you like running so get those shoes on and get yourself out just to relax and destress.your a great supporter on here I hope it goes well with the move.

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to kenster1

Not a runner but, I love walking. Yes, I have bagged up everything and it is ready to go. I'm afraid I wasn't too organized about it though. I'm concerned that my new location may not let me keep everything I have accumulated in 6 months. I will have to see. I implement Moriah's efforts in my life everytime I come on this site and help people. I'm concerned though, that I might have a relapse from the emotional and physical stress I will undergo in the next few days. I want to thank you an extra high amount for caring.

That’s beautiful you want to help others as your counselor helped you!! & congratulations 🎉🎊 it’s like you’re graduating on to a new level of progress in your life I hope you can feel happy and joy for that as well!!! I’m sure this must be super hard though but good for you and please keep up good work and helping others!!! & please Keep posting and sharing your knowledge!!☺️🌻

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to hurtingheart1

I will be back to make a post about adrenal burnout when I gather uo enough oomph to do it. I know a lot on this subject and I'm sure there's many people I can help by letting the know. I went through the experience, was treated by a progressive doctor, making a full recovery. As usual I'll add cutting edge research to back up my report and give people some good options for holistic style treatment. I'll make it extra informative just for you.

hurtingheart1
hurtingheart1 in reply to JEG325

That sounds awesome 😊👏🏼👏🏼🌻🌻🌻🌻thank you!!!! I am soo interested in this - how did you know I need this?????🤣😱😱

soupysales
soupysales in reply to JEG325

Adrenal burnout....never heard of it. I am also interested in this.

It is hard to let go, but you can do it. Its going to be OK.

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to soupysales

I had that disorder abouf 15 years ago. I'm going to explain it in detail, how my provressive doctor treated it with supplements, diet & lifestyle changes and add today's ideas for treating it. But, it could be a few days. I had a bad night last night, anxiety, panic attack & all. Only slept a couple hours or so. I'll recover though. I'm stubborn that way. Thanks for the kind words.

This is a test of life and a hard one I can imagine. Funny I was just thinking this morning how hard it would be to move as I have gotten new neighbors recently. You have already been triumphant; you’ve gotten through each and every challenge that brings you where you are and I and many are so happy you are here. It’s amazing, your journey, your path is meant to be. So you can trust it I believe.

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to Starrlight

I will treasure those words from one of my favorite people on this site. Yes, I have triumphed, just like you have in getting to the point where we're at now. Don't let my few days of weakness fool you either. I ment every word I have said to you in the past. I once told Moriah wheh I perceived she was a bit down for some reason, that us folks here look up to our counselor's and when they make it through the struggles they are going through, then we know we can make it through our struggles too. I may be frazzled, on edge and struggle for awhile (I've never adapted to change real well) but, I will return to my usual irreverent self once I do adapt. I will always be here to help the most beautiful star in the sky too. 'Wouldn't wanna let you down, because I truly enjoy your presence in my life. Thank you for listening.

Starrlight
Starrlight in reply to JEG325

Thank you for enjoying my presence. You. Are. Beautiful Mr.JEG. Strong and beautiful.

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to Starrlight

(I still think I love you, beautiful, bright, shining star. And I will forever as long as you stay who you are!) From the heart of JEG 325....

Starrlight
Starrlight in reply to JEG325

💕 ❤️ 💗 💕 ❤️

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to Starrlight

All the love, hugs and happy vibes I can send you, beautiful spirit named Starrlight.

Starrlight
Starrlight in reply to JEG325

Beautiful soul I wish you peace, joy, laughter and light as the stars moon and sun smile down on you 🌞 🌙 ✨

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to Starrlight

That was so beautiful. It's early morning here and I have just returned from eating a breakfast/snack so I could take my morning holistic meds. Your beautiful reply was waiting for me. It warmed my heart immediately. Having you in my corner means everything. It's easing the sting of this transition considerably. Several of my friends from the other place have said hello too. That also is helping. God bless all of you. (Especially you though, sweet lady)

Starrlight
Starrlight in reply to JEG325

I feel like you are an earth angel sent from God to convince me of my light. Haha 😆 maybe it is that way! I love to think about the what if’s and I believe we will find out thT life isn’t as random as it sometimes can seem. There’s more connectedness and things that are out in place to make things work out. Ha I’m a dreamer and I believe in the dreams. I am so happy that it seems you are starting to adjust already and you sound well... hope you have a great day!

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to Starrlight

If I do, it will be because you're a part of it. Who's kidding who? You're the angel with the angelic sounding name. You bring me light everyday. Maybe we both need reminded of our light and our capability to help others. I know that I will send you my love and concen, all day, everyday!

Starrlight
Starrlight in reply to JEG325

😊 love to you today and every day too!!!

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to Starrlight

Yay! Starrlight loves me! (ha, ha). Seriously, you're making me feel happy....

Try to focus on your strength right now. You’ve grown so much that what you’re fearing right now is only the possibility of a setback. I’ve done it myself. Just focus on the task at hand. You can do this. Don’t fret worrying just don’t let it take over your accomplishments. You can do this!

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to mickeyshell99

Thank's a lot. That is outstanding advice that I have given often myself. I had forgotten that I shouldn't let my stress overcome my accomplishments. Thanks for reminding me.

I really needed to hear your reply. I am in the midst of buying a house and moving myself. One task at a time,

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to Robert6

Yes, his advice was very good. Remember to not let the stress rob you of all that you have accomplished. Lots of luck.

I can tell you that you have been very encouraging and uplifting to me! I have only been on here for about a week and some and you have made me feel uplifted multiple times! You are bringing a positive effect on people! Sending positive vibes to you!!!

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to Dogmom55

Thank's a lot! You're returning the favor right now. I really have made a bunch of good friends already. I've only been here about 7 days myself. A kazillion hugs your way right now!

Hello 👋🏽 it’s my honour to be there for you as I see you helping so many people everyday x

I was wondering .. even though you are moving isn’t it possible to stay in touch? X if not her words will always be with you x

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to Hope4321

She said I could stay in touch. It's not the same though. But, I appreaciate the kind words. You're right, her words will be with me forever. Since they have taken root deep inside me, her love and support is the source from which the strength to help everyone else comes from. I also help others to honor what she did for me. You are already one of my close friends here. I'm sending you an extra kazillion hugs for being so nice. (Contact me directly from the members site whenever you need me or want to)

Hope4321
Hope4321 in reply to JEG325

You’ve always been so kind hearted towards me so it’s a pleasure xx

Moving is mega stressful, but it is time to move on, draw on the positives fro the friend you made, and acceptance that she is a counsellor , and there to help others, it’s hard sometimes, my CBT counsellor was the best therapist I ever saw, but I have accepted that my time is up with her, and I have learnt that I have to cut the ties and stand on my own two feet, tough, walking clears my head, and time for relaxing helps too, quite often we are there fir others but don’t take care of us xx

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to Florida1959

Thank you for the kind words. I am having a hard time of it tonight and I appreciate your advice a lot. In fact, I'm sending you a kazillion happy vibes in return.

Florida1959
Florida1959 in reply to JEG325

And returned xxx

We really love you!!! And that is the most beautiful thing ❤️❤️❤️

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to Shark1

Shark 1, I really love all tbe friends I've made here too. A kazillion vibes of happiness to you in return.

Hidden
Hidden

Thank you for sharing this. It’s always lovely to hear if kind caring people in life..it helps a lot.

It’s lovely that you can get in touch with her and that you do have that option.

New beginning for you and I wish you well.

It will be lovely to hear how you are...🌹🌺🌹🌺🌹🌺xx

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to Hidden

Thank you for caring. I plan further updates and I will also explain why I am where I am. Olivia40, you rock.

Hidden
Hidden in reply to JEG325

That would be lovely 😊

I look forward to hearing

And thank you 🌹🌺🌹🌺

Tough one... I can't say much except that carry the positivity and strength you've developed to the new place without her. This will be certainly be the test of times and your strength physically and mentally... Hold on tighter to what you've conquered from within.

All the best and be fantaglorious...

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to Wild_N

Thanks for the encouragement. I'm sending you a kazillion happy vibes for being such a good person....

Please remember I am here and that you have done so much for me. Don’t feel bad I am a 46 year old female living with my parents also thinking of moving out of our house of 17 years. Maybe a change will do good we have to exoeruence it to See. Please feel better. I know calm mama will keep in touch with you. She sound like a mama to you. Maybe she can adopt me too. Please please take your holistic things and get better. My 4 th day on sertraline is today and I am praying and hoping this is my saver. Love you stay positive.

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to So17

Thank you for that, beautiful lady. I just ate lunch 30 minutes ago and took my Vit C, Vit D, mag, & B-complex 50. I am having a hard time emotionally right now. The lack of sleep combined with the terrible loss I feel at losing my friends of 6 months & Moriah, is killing me. I just called Moriah to check in with her as she requested. It liked to killed me. I almost broke down and cried. As I'm writing you it's hard not to cry. This feels like a major setback. I do think some time to soak up some sun might help me. Maybe even a brief walk in the sun. It's hard to leave all the love and support I get from you and the other people on this sight though. I feel like I should be helping you, not he other way around.....

So17
So17 in reply to JEG325

You will be ok cry all you need to cry no worries your basement won’t say or talk bad about you. What state you live in?! I’m in Texas if you are close to me you can come by and visit we can take a walk to the park

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to So17

Unfortunately, I'm in southwestern Ohio. I would love to take that walk with you. Between the two of us we could probably take on anything. Here in this new place I feel isolated and all alone. Crying won't help that. Sleep would. But, I never sleep well in a new place. It was probably 2 weeks before I slept at the place I just left from. Look, where came from there were classes to take, people to talk to, I ran a small snack shop from my dorm and so on. Though I spent much time to myself, there were people walking up and down the hallways all the time. Here there is only the sound of passing cars on a busy highway.Right now, that seems such a lonely sound. I mean, I had a purpose there. I knew who that person was in that environment. Who am I now?

So17
So17 in reply to JEG325

Ok so what made you move?? Find sinwthing similar to do don’t give up my friend. We can do this I have a nurse friend in Ohio I miss her but she has MS and she had to move back to her family due to her illness she was great and all I do is see her on Facebook. Do you ever get on social media??

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to So17

I as only allowed to stay for 6 months where I was at. Tomorrow, I'm going to tell you my whole recent story. I'll cover about the last 10 months. But, I'll give you the short version. After I do you might understand how I feel a bit more. You will be the only one who knows. And yes, I'm on Facebook. I have 3 or 4 dear friends I talk to regularly. They would probably scold me for feeling so down right now, considering how far I've come the last 6 months. But, I told you I have never throughout my entire lifetime, adjusted to change very well. There is only one quick cure for this and that's to find something to do. People to to talk to in person, a class to take, a dating site, community activities and/or group/one on one counseling. There has to be face to face people in my life! There has to be!

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to JEG325

Gona take a quick walk outside. Be back in just a few minutes.

I so understand your situation. It can be the most difficult thing to become so close to someone, trust them, be vulnerable with them, and then all the sudden things have to change... it is very common to get attached to your counselor. I've had a lot of counselors in the past. One that I had for 2 years I got attached to and then she moved. That was shocking/startling to me. Because I was emotionally healthy when she left, it helped me to move on (though it took awhile). Sorry I don't have any further advise regarding that...

Are you seeing another counselor now outpatient since you've moved? It'd probably be a good idea. Stopping seeing a counselor all the sudden is likely a shock to your system.

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to Jobug

No I am not seeing another counselor. I have one through another agency but, I hardly see her at all. I only saw Moriah once a week. But, she was on site 5 days per week about 6 to 9 hours per day. I knew I could reach her when I had to. An occasional phone call does not replace that. Thanks for your ear.

Jobug
Jobug in reply to JEG325

I hear you. I hope you feel better after your walk today :)

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to Jobug

What I felt was tired. But, that's good. 8 hours of sleep would make all the difference in the world. It would probably return me to the feisty, irreverent person I usually am. After all, I didn't even feel like writing on my stories today, only my favorite personal thing to do in the world.

Cognitive talk therapy is very healing and even though I never got the piece of paper {degree} I am a certified life coach and also have decided to give back if you would like to exchange support let me know we can vent and cry together!

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to beach3282

You've got it! Right now, I especially need the support. But, I can help you too! I don't need a piece of paper to help people, be friendly and spread love and happiness. But, I'm in a bit of low place myself right now. Gotta step out to get a quick meal and take some holistic meds. But, I will be back in a few minutes!

beach3282
beach3282 in reply to JEG325

I am JC VANRIPPER ON FACE BOOK are you on there

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to beach3282

Yeah, I am. Contact me directly in the members section by typing my name in the search box. Don't wanna yell it out here.

Hi JEG325, I understand completely about needing the face to face human interaction to just feel better about ourselves. I'm really needing that myself also. It sounds like you've come so far in 6 months and even when you have "down days", you still have so much to give. I try to approach each new day with looking for a purpose and being grateful to experience life. And I try to accomplish something each day, like a to-do list. I'm still lonely, and very sad about so many things but I know I am not worthless like my mind tries to tell me. (I am looking for a counselor so I have someone to talk to when I sink too low). I know words don't mean much, but I always hope for a better tomorrow and a happier future.

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to nana333

nana333, I may not be an official counselor but, you can talk to me whenever you need. My couselor gave me so much love and support that to do anything else but, help others the same way would be a dishonerable crime. You can contact me directly at the members listings by typing my name into the search box. I will answer whenever I can which is quite often. Pour your heart out, I wll accept your pain and replace it with love. The sun will always rise after even the darkest day. Wanna feel better? Take a wlk in the morning sunlight. Light always trumps darkness. I'm sending a kazilion rays of sunshine just for you!

nana333
nana333 in reply to JEG325

Thank you, I appreciate it!

I do not have your name but that is my stage name on face book so you need to message me

JEG325
JEG325 in reply to beach3282

Will do today, late morning. I have instant messaging and I usually contact people that way. I will send you a friend request and once you accept then we can instant message all we want.

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