Choice of words (Probably not my best but here we go)

[faulhallen]

Ok Allen... calm yourself...

So about a month ago I made a new friend. It’s not my place to share her business but she left a bad marriage. She referred to herself once as having been “utterly destroyed.”

I didn’t argue with her that she shouldn’t feel that way. That’s how I’ve felt frequently over the years in my own bad marriage... but I did ask her a favor.

Please choose different words to describe yourself.

Our words carry more power than we realize and by choosing words that are more harsh and severe we risk further bringing down our self-worth.

What is broken can be fixed. What is destroyed cannot. I believe my friend can be happy one day. I believe you can be happy one day too.

I’m not encouraging you to lie to yourself about your situation but don’t describe yourself overly harshly.

You’re not a failure, you’re not where you’d like to be.

You’re not worthless, you’re in pain and struggle sometimes.

You haven’t been destroyed, you can be fixed.

[morenews]

Great point, faulhallen. Words matter. We should choose wisely for ourselves and for others, because we can hurt others with words as well. thank you!

[hurtingheart1]

Thanks for sharing this it’s very caring and positive and compassionate👏🏼🦋🌸🌼I need to try &remember this advice as well!!

[hypercat54]

That's a very good post Allen and of course words are so important. That's why I now pick up on folk who come in here saying they hate themselves. x

[Hidden]

What a lovely post & I agree with you 100%, back in my day they said sticks & stones can break your bones but names can never hurt you....so not true. Like you said words are powerful & once said can't be taken back. Positive breeds positive & negative breeds negative. All of us should be feeding our brains with positives! Have a joy filled day! Love, peace, light, joy & hugs!

[Indigo-ivy]

Great post !!! Thank you so much for sharing ! 💗 I need to take this advice on board ! Sending lots of good vibes your way , peace & love ! ✌🏼❤