So, last Thursday, — I came out to my teacher. They accepted me for who
I was. Later that day, I came out to my mother, whom accepted me for who
I was. My mother then (I guess without knowing that I’d had prefer if I had done it myself), told my father, though, he hasn’t questioned it nor said anything, so— I’m assuming, that’s good, right? 💕
I’m thinking of coming out to two other relatives soon, (though, I feel unsure of rather I should or not), hopefully, if I decide to do so; it’ll go well.
Even I cant imagine how tough that must be for you, I think you did the right thing for yourself. I remember when one of my friends come out to me, he told me later it was “huge emotional release” for him.. You should by proud of yourself, you are brave and honest. Keep going, wish u all the best.
You should do what your comfortable with, I don't know if you need to talk to anyone else that your not sure if you should talk to them. Most people that are in your inner circle usually know you and like you for who you are as a person and most probably knew you were before you did.... it's what happened with my youngest brother.... but he felt it was an expression of empowerment for him to openly tell everyone he was gay,...he was doing Carmen Miranda routines with a towel wrapped around his head and sporting a bathrobe dancing down the hall out of the shower at the age of 7...not that it meant he was gay.... it just wasn't any big surprise in my family....we just took it as normal and just wanted him to be himself and happy....
It did not go so well coming out with his stepmother.... she has a dinosaur mentality....and he was 15 at the time....so she sent him to a psychiatrist to see if they could get the 'gay' out of him and he ended up running away from his dad's house. My mother of course was oblivious to his pain and never cared about anyone but herself....so she was no help to him....and I was living 2 hours away......didn't know where he went.....
finally he came back home and was subjected to the 'De-Gaying tactics' of his stepmother....it didn't work obviously because you are who you are. He endured that BS for a couple of years and finally moved out for good and has openly lived his life ever since then. So when I say be selective about who you come out too.... some will not accept you for what ever reasons.... and it's hurtful.... just mind your heart and be yourself....
It's great that those close to you accept you for who you are, it makes things easier for you. I don't know why anyone would express disapproval, it's not like they can do anything about it or as if you've made some decision they don't agree with. That's just one part of who you are but it doesn't define you. Maybe it's easy for me to say because I'm straight but I think if I was gay I wouldn't bother coming out or living in the closet, I would probably just do my thing and it's up to everyone else whether they like it or not as long as they realise they can't do anything about it. I used to work with a guy who everybody assumed was gay when they met him but he would always deny it, which generated a lot of gossip because most people were sure he was gay. Eventually he did come out when he was ready, which is fair enough, and we all had to try to look surprised 😂 of course that was his decision and I respect that but I couldn't help but think to myself, wouldn't it just have been easier to not deny it in the first place? But that that's a matter of personal choice and everyone should do what they think is best. I think if it's all a bit new to you and you're not quite ready to to be openly out, the person who suggested only coming out to certain people has got a point, some people have got some funny ideas about things like that so if you think you'd be upset by negative reactions it might be worth avoiding coming out to older people, very religious people and those who are generally judgement at least at first, until you are more secure in your own sexuality. It's ridiculous that anyone should be expected to come out as gay in my opinion, after all, has anyone ever heard of anyone feeling that they have to come out as straight? 😂 I hope that in the not so distant future, nobody will assume anyone's sexuality because nobody has to explain the colour of their skin, hair or eyes etc, to me this is no different.
So do I. I’m hoping, that, perhaps— our next generation won’t be so judgmental, nor question when they get told something like this. And just try accept them close them to as best as they can. Even if it’s hard to believe or so. Still.
Thank you, for your support! ♡
Good for you! You're strong, inspiring, and amazing!
Content on HealthUnlocked does not replace the relationship between you and doctors or other healthcare professionals nor the advice you receive from them.
Never delay seeking advice or dialling emergency services because of something that you have read on HealthUnlocked.
Update
how do you forgive yourself for past mistakes and stop fretting over them?
Coming down from a crisis...
Coming out of depression
Update
