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Feeling alone

I feel so misunderstood

I hate feeling that way I do but when I try and tell someone how I’m feeling they tsk to me like I’m a crazy person when all I want is comfort

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I understand. People who have not been through what we are going through can't relate to us, and can't understand how we feel. I have found that only people who have experienced anxiety themselves have a clue what I'm talking about.

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Totally understand, in same boat. Yet I'm a good listener when I'm needed. I just withdraw and then they get worried. It's hard not to complain when we feel ill and depressed and hard for people to understand when they can't see. I think the forums are good for support. If all else fails in real life...fake it till you make it, the old adage smile and the world smiles with you and maybe you can convince yourself. Look for positive affirmations. Even one a day and focus on it for five minutes. Let people see you're making an effort to help yourself. Don't give up on yourself because it feels like noone cares. Sometimes they just don't know how to say they do or to deal with it. Ask directly for help and show appreciation. If you're doing all this already then just keep reading advice online, here seems to be the best place, there are so many of us. Also I imagine it won't last forever it's just a chapter in your life. Keep your chin up...you'll get through. You're not alone. 😊

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So true.

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Hi well you are either telling the wrong people or they don't know what to say. Only tell loved ones who you think might be able to comfort you. x

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Thank you sometimes it is loved ones but they just don’t get it and I hate leaving it bottled up inside 😰

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I’ve found the we generally don’t get strokes from others because we have a mental illness. Don’t look to those around you for comfort...learn how to love and comfort yourself! Make yourself happy. Reconnect with your Higher Power, if you have one. It’s sheer freedom! Those around you can simply watch you flourish! Wishing you peace!

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I am a little bit disagreeing with you here, it is great to learn how to love and comfort ourselves. But don't we all need some support and understanding? and we all -means people in general. I would say we, with mental issues, even more so. Is not it why we are here, in this community, to help each other. I agree though that others very often don't understand or don't know how to react. But some do know ...and try to support and help. I wish i could be so stoic not to need help from others...

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This is a good point- after all we do not live in a vacuum.

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For me, it’s best to rely on myself and my Higher Power because other people will always disappoint me. I stand by my statements and can respect your disagreement.

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I see both sides. I agree with being self-reliant and using our higher power but that doesn't mean that we can't reach out and lean on others when things get tough. A community such as this helps support us when we are overwhelmed and can't do it alone.

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Yes we do need to self help ourselves but it is good to have someone there to talk to and be there for u to give u encouraging words but sometimes they don’t always know what to say and it can end up making u feel worse

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Yeah I agree we need to nourish both body and soul.

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Thank you for this yes we do need to be strong for ourselves but it is also good to let those emotions out to someone and have that comfort 💙

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I'm sorry I know how much it hurts when you get misunderstood and left off and I did it to someone as much as it hurts me to say it I didn't want to let them go and they didn't want to either but things did and I hate myself for being impulsive rather than understanding

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Yes it can be difficult for both parties

But just listening and saying ur going to be ok or breath is something I would like to hear rather than it’s in my head or stop thinking that way it’s so much easier said than done

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It can be difficult to find someone who can relate. I feel like this place is a good, safe place to relate our feelings to each other. I am sorry you feel misunderstood. I know how that can feel lonely; but you're not alone.

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I was going to say the same thing that teemo1 said. Realize that they are not looking at you like you are a crazy person, but they are looking at you that way because they have never encountered a situation like yours and do not know what to say. They're facial expressions is just them thinking out loud. They don't mean to do it. You just caught them off guard. Keep reminding yourself of this and you will begin to realize how true it is about people not experiencing these things and not knowing what to say to comfort you. But you have a team on here that knows girl. We are not crazy, just brave enough to let others know how we feel. Many people bottle their feelings up and don't have the courage like you and I to just talk to people about how we feel. You keep your chin up and no worries about what others think because it's not about them in the first place. Keep on reaching out with your brave self and you just may help others do the same. Even if you are an example for just one person out there, that is just enough to save someone from bottling up their feelings and avoiding a panic attack. HUGS!

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Yea, i too know that feeling Stephanie. I tell someone what I'm "feeling", and they proceed to point out all the reasons I shouldn't feel that way. Well 1st of all, I'm not choosing to feel that way, and further, having your feelings invalidated is not helpful.

I'm lonely too. I do live alone, have a small family, one child, one grandchild, and they're 100miles away. At my age, that's far. But i am blessed with a few truly awesome friends and family members, but none of them r alone, some too busy. Thank God I'm not afraid concerning where i live. My neighbors keep track of me. Im only 63, but have had much pysical illness besides all the other disorders. Sorry, i kind of went on. I hope you have a peaceful, restful night Stephanie.

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Stephanie, I understand how you are feeling. Some people do not understand because they have not faced that feeling. I am thankful they haven't, but it doesn't change the fact that we need to feel supported and loved. I always try to find someone that feels the way I do, so that I can be there for them like I need someone there for me. Feeling misunderstood is one of the most frustrating feelings and a lot of times it just takes time to let things settle, before we reassess them. I am sure you are not a "crazy person", and that what you are feeling is normal. Hang in there - you are stronger than you think!

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Thank you and it’s hard because when I’m feeling my anxiety even though I have the support no one around me gets it and it’s so frustrating to me and that what’s makes me feel alone

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Well, not everyone undestands us or what we want or how do feel. But, lets find the right person and talk with. Forget abt those ppl and hold on be strong

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Thank you I appreciate that I am trying to be strong especially after a long and hard couple of weeks

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