Therapy topics

[Malumaf]

Does anyone else go into a therapy session with a list expecting it to take up the full hour and then you go through it in ten minutes and have nothing else to do and have no answer when they say what else and you thought one topic would take thirty minutes (idk if this is a silly thing to post about but it’s something I’m struggling with) idk if I’m just not opening up enough about topics (I don’t like to cry in front of people or at all so that can hold me back with sensitive issues) idk any advice or just agreement so I don’t feel alone in this?

[LovelySnow]

Hi Malumaf. I have found that can happen, yes. And I don't think it's a silly thing to post about!

Do you feel comfortable with your therapist? I know you said you don't like crying in front of people in general. I'm a pretty private person (well, I'm more open here because I'm anonymous!) so if I remember correctly, it took some time for me to be able to really talk to mine.

[Malumaf in reply to LovelySnow]

I don’t really feel completely comfortable with her because I always feel like I’m gonna be judged or locked up in a facility if I tell her anything too far

[LovelySnow in reply to Malumaf]

I used to have those thoughts/worries, too (not with my counselor, with my psychiatrist). Then one day I just told him and I felt better.

I don't know your therapist, but if she is a good one she will care about helping you and will listen to you. If you feel like she is good, and a good fit for you, then like anxiety_59 said, the more open you can be, the better.

[Malumaf in reply to LovelySnow]

I know you guys are right, I just have such issues confessing things or any form of confrontation which is just something I need to get over and talk to her about but I guess I just need some courage

[LovelySnow in reply to Malumaf]

You can do it. And if you don't feel comfortable with your therapist, you are allowed to change! It's one thing if they aren't a good fit. Sometimes it takes a few different people to find the right one.

But if it's hard to open up to anyone, then that's a little different. You can do it, though - you did it in your posts! I wonder if you could write a letter or a note to your therapist. Sometimes I can express myself better in writing. Have you tried that??

[Malumaf in reply to LovelySnow]

I think I do better in writing cuz I don’t have to see someone when I say it and I don’t have to be afraid of a reaction so maybe I could but idk when I’d give it to her, and honestly she’s a good fit in that she will just let me babble about whatever I need to babble about and instead of giving me tools and telling me to use them she offers tools and asks if I think they’ll work which is something past therapists haven’t done

[LovelySnow in reply to Malumaf]

That sounds good! I agree - I don't think therapists are there to tell us what to do. Then how would we grow and learn to be strong?

Maybe you can ask your therapist about writing to her, or tell her the idea and see what she says.

I believe in you.

[Hidden]

Goodness I cry at the drop of the hat in front of my Psychiatrist, he doesn't mind. Ya know you are paying for this so I would try my best to get things out , I know it can be hard but boy once you open up it feels so much better, like a ton has been lifted off your shoulders. I'm not sure if this is going to help you but know I'm here for you. I wish for you peace of mind. Love, joy, light & hugs!!!

[Malumaf in reply to Hidden]

Ya I’ve thought about that, I think it’s just instinct for me to not want to cry in front of her cuz I just don’t cry in front of anyone

[Hidden in reply to Malumaf]

You must be very strong! Have a great day! Love, peace, light, joy & hugs!!!

[Hidden]

I always have like plan things to say but when I’m there I end up not talking about my issues really I can get how some things are too deep

[Malumaf in reply to Hidden]

I had to start writing a list and then when I look at the list I’m like do I really need to talk about it?