Trying My Best...

[lovesbeachesandbooks]

I feel like every time I try to do things to take better care of myself I end up having to stop to take care of everyone else. I had an appointment with a social worker today and ended up having to cancel it because my mom didn't want to drive. I am to the point where I am just going to wait on things till I get my licenses. I am to the point where I don't care enough to want to do things for myself because when I try to people don't leave me alone.

[Agora1]

Hi loves, I think we are all guilty of being the nurturer for everyone who needs us and our payback is anxiety big time. It is more important to take care of our own welfare first so owe have enough to give back to others who need us without feeling guilty about it. Using the forum here helps you know you are not alone in how you feel. You are doing your best in helping others, now it's time to do your best in helping lovesbeachesandbooks xx

[lovesbeachesandbooks in reply to Agora1]

Thank you! Its hard to do when you have one parent who can't work because of health and when I schedule something for myself I end up having to reschedule or cancelling it because I don't have a license.

[Agora1 in reply to lovesbeachesandbooks]

Is your parent the driver? If so, that makes it more difficult.

At one time I was being pulled at taking care of my aging mother

and my daughter's anorexia issues. Got burned big time ending up

agoraphobic for 5 years and could not help anyone.

You situation sounds different. Hopefully things will change greatly when you

do get your license. I admire you being there for your parent. xx

[gogogirl in reply to lovesbeachesandbooks]

Can you take a taxi or public trans? You need to take care of yourself before you can take care of anyone else. I know easier said than done.

[gogogirl]

If your mom did not want to drive- please call a crisis line or social services. If you are still in school please talk to a counselor.