Another day....

[KittyR15]

So today sucked. I was so tired leaving work I literally went home and to bed. Only to wake up a little early before another shift to spend time with my family. And my husband starts an argument with me. I have a lot of unnecessary clutter around the house and I work so much that I don’t really have time. So I got a small storage to help out. I didn’t tell him because I kinda liked the independence of taking care of something on my own and after 8 years of marriage I liked having the privacy of something on my own. That didn’t go over well with him, he feels like I’m hiding something from him. I told him that’s not fair, you asked me for some order in the house but your mad when I do it. This was not a good time for me. I already have too much on my plate. I just feel very empty and alone.

[hypercat54]

Hi why is he asking you for some order when you work as well? Doesn't he do his share of the housework? If not then he should. x

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I'm sorry you are so tired and feeling overwhelmed with household chores. I find it helpful to break them down and create a schedule so I can just focus on one task each day instead of cleaning the entire house at once. I can understand your frustration with your husband. Because opposites attract there is usually one who likes clutter and one who prefers minimalism. When living together you do have to find compromises on both sides. Good Luck!

[momonthego2019]

Sometimes we have to pick our battles in life and i'm not sure why your husband choice to pick this battle with you. Sometimes its best to kill the situation with kindness instead of fueling the fire. Not sure if you agree but there are so many other things that i'm sure are more important than this storage. I'm sure you both have a lot on your plate so if you can find time to sit down and talk with him and see what his issues are regarding the housework (or maybe there are other things going on), and hopefully you can explain to him how exhausted you are and maybe ask him if it would be ok to get help once a week to clean around the house, maybe that would ease his mind. You will get the help you need, the house will be less cluttered, and both of you will be happy.