FRIEND IN NEED

[Lonely_Devil]

hye , uhm im not really sure what to say. i did go through some stuff in my life but its all over now. yet my demons are still haunting me.i try my best not to self harm but everytime i have a mental breakdown i turn to that. im not really good at socialising or talking to people thus i dont have many friends. i would like to have some friends that would be able to understand and bear with me. i know its a lot to ask but i feel really lonely these days. i feel left out at college and its quite stressful at home.im 18 year old . itll be nice if anyone would be my friend and talk to me. just share experience and listen to my rants. sorry to take your time . thank you. if you would seriously like to be my friend please contact me at my instagram "broken.wolf00" .

[Marshall64]

Welcome. People here are friendly and non-judgmental. Some may have had similar experiences or can relate to how you are feeling.

I get the feeling left out and having a hard time socializing. Is there anything in particular going on right now?

[Lonely_Devil in reply to Marshall64]

yeah . u see i just entered college for about 2 months now. most of them speaks chinese and i dont understand chinese. a part of me fears they speak badly about me. and whenever they hang out or went out they never invite me and i see their post on social media kinda hurts when im not there. i think the reason might be because of my health . i feel really hurt and left out. i want to feel included . a part of me want to leave my friends and make new friends but i feel really anxious talking to people and getting out of my comfort zone.. and i am not pretty and bubbly like the other girls in my school. because of my health im short and different. it makes me insecure. so yeah

[Marshall64 in reply to Lonely_Devil]

Stepping out of your comfort zone is tough but if you can make yourself do it, it may change everything. Just introducing yourself with a smile goes a long way. It doesn't matter if you are short. Personally is what people see. And one of the best ways to get conversation going and endearing you to them is by asking them questions about them. Most people like talking about themselves and at some point they will ask about you. Keep it lighthearted and be genuine. I joke about myself (plenty of material there) and that breaks the ice. If conversation doesn't go all that great with the first person, try someone else. You really have nothing to lose but you can gain some close friends. For some of the friends that I met in college, i had to get out of my shyness and comfort zone and was always glad that I did. The same went for dating. If you don't try, you might be missing out.

[Lonely_Devil in reply to Marshall64]

thanks. i guess ill try. but what if they look down on me. what if they laugh and ignore me . what if they say " what a wierdo" to me. and what exactly do i ask about them

[Tutumama in reply to Lonely_Devil]

Try to be more self confident about yourself! Many people in this world are short but that doesn't mean it defines you as a person. You don't have to be like everyone else, being different is ok! Have you had people say this before when you tried talking to them (what a weirdo)? If so, they are definitely not the type of friends that you even want.

I know it is not so easy to make friends at your age and when you have health problems. When you talk to a new person, don't mention your health issues in your first conversation unless it is something noticeable that they ask you about...then you can give the short version of it but just let them know you are doing what you can with the life that was given to you!

I wish i had more advice for you but I hope you can find some new friends you are comfortable with that understand and accept you! Best of luck and remember to believe in yourself, have confidence you can do anything you set your mind to!!

[Lonely_Devil in reply to Tutumama]

thank you

[Raiden]

Always happy to listen dont b sorry. Its good your taking the first step to overcome this battle. It takes time but you will get better if you keep reaching out. Always here if you need take care

[Lonely_Devil in reply to Raiden]

thank you

[Raiden in reply to Lonely_Devil]

It doesn't matter what they say about you if you are happy with the person you are. I know its hard to not be paranoid about these things at the moment. If you can love yourself it will b much easyer. Be kind to yourself and dont beat yourself up nobody is perfect. You can beat this bud it just takes time take care

[Lonely_Devil in reply to Raiden]

thanks again man

[dang2dang]

Hi Lonely -Devil. Im here. tell me your story