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[MadyH]

So my boyfriend who is in the Air Force is offically going to Korea month before I graduate. I feel sick we had a plan we were gong to get married and have children but now our plan is screwed and I dont get to see him for a year my heart is so sad and broken. Everything is falling apart I cant sleep and I cant eat. Someone help me please.

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Hi MadyH,

I am sorry you are going through this. Unfortunately, I am very familiar with military life.

Why do you have to scrap all of your plans because he is leaving?

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Couldn’t they get married and he apply for some sort of family housing on base?

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It depends. It sounds like a remote tour since it's only for one year.

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No family on a remote.

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Ok. I had a cousin in the USAF. He wasn’t married at that time in his life.

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Military life can be hard on family members. I love to watch a television show called Army Wives. It's the real deal....all about the life military wives signed up for.

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I heard of the show. I never saw it. I don’t watch many sitcoms or dramas anymore. I mostly watch animated shows like family guy, American Dad, South Park, or Rick and Morty. I never was a huge of animation, but I find it more of an escape these days. A way of tuning out the world for thirty minutes and enjoy the present moment.

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Love Family Guy !

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Here is a preview reel of the upcoming season. I think it starts on September 30th. I don’t know if you have seen it.

youtu.be/t3VtKdoPIYE(Not working as expected?)

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Stewie!! Thanks

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Lol it is funny,my mother hates it lol.

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[fauxartist]

this is terrible...I read your last post about this too and felt so heartbroken for you...it sounds like you feel your whole world is crashing in on you....this is a serious situation for you...and it may be temporary depression due to a traumatic sad situation your in and if I were you I would talk to your doctor as soon as you can get an appointment.... you'll need help to get through this... it is helpful to share here about it..but it's only one tool for you, and you may need professional help to really get through this in the long run....hang in there....this is going to take some time....

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You are right, faux. Professional help may be needed, but to be honest, this is life in the military. At least she is aware of how things work before she gets married.

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yep...it's part of the job...does not end till they are done. And it's hard on a marriage unless you are in it for the long haul and can sustain yourself independently.

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You better believe it!

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MadyH,

I don't mean to upset you even more, but it's better to know that things aren't always going to go as planned. Generally, Air Force isn't as stressful as the other branches of the military. Some Air Force members stay at one location for their entire career. It can be very unpredictable.

What is his career field? Is he active duty?

[MadyH in reply to Hidden]

He is in weapons so he loads bombs for a living yes he is active duty

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Hi MadyH,

Thanks for letting me know. Sounds like a munitions unit.

How are you feeling about his deployment now?

Being a military wife isn't always a piece of cake, but you don't have to call off all of your plans because he is leaving for a year.

Maybe you two don't believe in long distance relationships?

[MadyH in reply to Hidden]

because I am 17 years old so I guess it gives me time to grow up a little more. I am almst 18. We believe in long distance and it will work it just hurts he is long distance right now he is in California and I am in Nebraska so long distance is normal its just hard. And my older sister is being stationed in Japan a month after my 8th birthday.

[MadyH in reply to MadyH]

18th

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Yes, give yourself some time. Graduate from high school and experience new things. Live a little bit and enjoy each other.

You are going to be so excited when the phone rings and he is on the other end. You heart will skip a beat when you see a letter from him. Maybe you guys will do Facetime or something like that. Send him care packages, letters, photos, etc. You are probably doing those things now since he is in CA.

All I'm trying to say is that it's not the end of the world. I know it makes you feel sad but you can do this if you want to.

[MadyH in reply to Hidden]

We face time a lot and he is currently on the phone with me right now. We can do this together it is just a lot to take in.

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OOOh I'm so happy ! If this is what you both want, you can make it work!

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You must've known how it goes when you planned on getting married he's in a contract you're not ,change the dates,simples.

[MadyH in reply to Hidden]

Simple is not the right word. It is hard and you do not understand unless you are in my place

[MadyH]

Thank you all for the feedback it helped a lot and other didnt but thank you.