Disappointed

[01harley]

One of my triggers is still when I go to a new Dr. And the nurse asks all the questions and the one concerning your parents medical history. I always say I was adopted, and they look at u like oh u wasn't wanted. Some will go on to say so u never knew anything about your parents. To this day I don't know who my father was. I believe I came in contact with him once. But still my parents were the ones that adopted me when I was 3 days old. My birth mother was going to sell me to someone else. Luckily for me my birth mothers, mother knew my parents and knew how much they wanted a child. So she stayed with me at the hospital till my parents could drive from Wyoming to California to pick me up. So anyone can have and make kids, it takes special people to be a mother and father. Sorry stuff like that is still a trigger for my depression and this just bothered me today. Thanks for listening.

[zevietnameseguy98]

I am so sorry to hear that.

[Hidden]

You are wanted and glad you are here.

[Hidden]

My husband was adopted and has never once had any concern for his birth parents. His parents are the beautiful people that raised him and loved him through thick and thin. It’s ok to disregard them and to be proud of who you are at the same time...wishing you much peace!! 🙂🌷🙂

[01harley in reply to Hidden]

Thank you.

[fauxartist in reply to Hidden]

your husband is very fortunate, and thankfully he never went through it.... my brother never knew his step mother wasn't his real mother, and didn't understand why he was treated differently by her...his father never told him about his birth mother, as she put both my brothers in an orphanage until the father rescued them. He was overseas in the military at the time and could not locate my mother, she left him without a word and took the three of us with her.....when my brother finally met his birth mother....she again rejected him...he lives alone, and has never had a long term relationship. And will probably always be alone. We talk often enough because I feel closest to him, I hope I help him understand how saved he was, not to have his birth mother raise him, as she is a monster...and a sociopath. But he will never recover from being thrown away, twice by her...and many people who don't have one or both birth parents raise them, always wonder why....and that's the hardest thing to live with....I know.

[fauxartist]

No 01harley.... absolutely that would bug the crap out of me too...like.... you some how don't fit in the box's on their paperwork to be checked off... and what a stupid question... what part of being adopted do they not get the first time you said it... I never knew my father either, and always got the same stupid questions.... look ... lets face it.... stupid is as stupid does... a professional first off should know how to answer a sensitive question like that with a bit more intelligence and tact... we already bare the pain of feeling like we were thrown away and are suffering from that.... being asked stupid questions don't help.

Wish I was there with you....would have had a very diplomatic conversation with that one.

Glad your here honey... I missed you and was hoping you were doing okay...I've been on and off lately....today was the longest I stayed on... glad to see you my friend....

[01harley]

Thank you. I knew u would understand.

[fauxartist in reply to 01harley]

You know it pal....always here for you... I pm'd ya ... worried about you my friend....glad to see you.....

[hrow]

Hi! It is hard to be adopted ! I know because my husband was adopted and for years he had abandonment issues. I tried to help him see that even though his birth parents were not able to keep him, his adopted parents wanted him and were praying for a baby and couldn't have their own. So he was deeply wanted and loved. Until you can get a hold of that, that you are deeply wanted and loved by your adopted parents there will be some type of hole in your heart. I hope that you can get a hold of how greatly you are loved and wanted and that there IS a purpose for your life!

H