Looking for support

Hello. I suffer with PTSD and Depression. These are extremely hard times. I have been in some sort of therapy since I was 14. My parents divorced when I was 3. My mother was mentally ill and never sought help. I was raped at 9 years old and it was never discussed. My mother sent me to live with my grandparents when I was 10. My step grandfather molested me from the time I was 10 until I was 16. I was married at 22 but it was not a good marriage. I have two grown children who decided a year ago that they no longer wanted me in their life. All of my friends are married and frankly they have their own lives so I don't spend time with them. I have had no successful relationships with men my entire life. The only man that I was ever really close to was my father. My father passed away 14 years ago at the age of 61. My mother was mentally and verbally abusive my entire life. She passed away this past April. With my children not talking to me, my mother passing away and oh my son and his wife had a daughter that I have not been able to see, I am beside myself.

[HisChild4ever]

I am very sorry! I prayed for you and I would recommend that you meet with a counselor for some support. You have been through so much and I am really sorry about that!

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I cannot find a support group in my area. I have looked high and low. I go to talk therapy like I said I’ve gone since I was 14. I truly do need a support group.

[HisChild4ever in reply to Hidden]

What about a church that you could attend? Having relationships can help a lot. I am very sorry that you cannot find a support group nearby! It's a good thing that you have therapy. I have been getting therapy for more than 25 years. It's important to get help. Life is not easy. I will pray for you again.

[HisChild4ever]

There are support groups that you can join. Don't isolate yourself. Get all the help you can get. Some of the people that seem very happy have problems too. It's important to be a part of a group. Maybe you can join a church. I wish you healing and happiness.

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Hi there, I am emphatic to your situation, you posted here, for me just posting here is what has helped more than any other session with any health professional as I am a person who is not easy to be liked but, someone is always ready to surprise you.

Sometimes things seem unbearable I have definitely felt this at times even though my life is not great it’s not the worst it’s been. I am here to listen or help if I can. You have made the first step, keep walking, someday you will be running and not even realise.

[enigmaticide]

Quite frankly, I'm left overwhelmed by the situations that you've gone through. You've been blessed with a sound enough mind to realize you need help as well as the strength to find this site and post about your experiences. I haven't been a member of this site as long as some of the others but my experiences, within this community, have been positive ones for the most part. It's good to know that you resume therapy in your area and it's my hope that your participation, within this community shall serve to enhance your healing journey. We're here for you. Welcome to the boards.

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I am so sorry for what I can see as consistent tradgedy in your life. Please allow me to say how very sorry I am that you've endured such enduring pain.

I am praying for you 🙏 and I am here for you anytime. You can also personally Private Message me anytime.

You've come to a place here that is amazing and full of supportive people. Day or night you will find someone here to help.

We are all suffering in one way or another.

First, I would like to stress the importance of a "good" Therapist, not any Therapist however one you click with and can trust and talk to. Recognition of needing help which you have already done because you're here, is the most important step. Insight. Now therapy. I went through a few which is very normal before I found a Therapist who listened and I could say anything to. Trust. It's hard for us. Looking for a good Therapist is like looking at a menu. There are 2 places to find this menu.

1. Psychology Today..google "therapy finder " a wonderful service put out by Psychology Today that helps you find a Therapist, Psychiatrist, Nurse Practitioner and Counselor's near you. Their bio is given as well as their email and phone number. I see a Therapist 2x weekly and a nurse practitioner every 2 months. Currently through Telehealth. I found her on Psychology Today "therapy finder"

2. Healthgrades which is a downloadable app or by Healthgrades.com. You can also put your zip code in and the number of miles your willing to travel , some reviews, sanctions, and their specialty. A great app as in "therapy finder".

You can also google their name for reviews however everyone sees their Therapist differently. You certainly would call them and talk to them first and then decide who you want to make an appt with.

Some Therapist's do video therapy which I opted against because of my social anxiety and the need to get out.

Another place to meet **friends** is a downloadable app called **Meet-Up** which is nationwide and has every group you can think of. Support groups of all types, walking groups , coffee, hiking, etc..you can even start one of your own. I belonged to an anxiety group for a while.

Also please continue here if you choose. Everyone is there for you. 👫👬⚓

These are the 3 best suggestions I have for getting help with services and support you choose.

Once involved I know things will start to improve and you'll start feeling a bit better little by little. It's not always easy to talk in Therapy and gradually trust ensues and you'll find it easier. If your gut tells you this isn't the Therapist for you please go back to steps 1 & 2 and keep going. The effort you put in you'll get back in starting the healing process.

I worked with a Psychiatrist who also did therapy for many years and when he retired I felt lost. He did set me up but I wasn't comfortable. After 3 tries, I found the best for me. I see her and a Nurse Practitioner for medicine. (Medicine is your choice and may help a great deal...also a trial..some meds work better than others). I take Cymbalta and Klonopin. It doesn't take it all away but helps dramatically.

Congratulations for starting the healing process ..you have strength and courage , You are worthy of a good life. You did not choose tragedy, like the rest of us, it chose you/us. That does not mean your life cannot begin to heal. You've already started.

My blessings & prayers. The 🌞 sun will come out again. ⚓💛💚🙏

I'm cheerleading for you!💪

Hugs ,

🌷Gretel331

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How can I instant message you?

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Just go to my profile and you'll see message. Press that.

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Are you okay?

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Yeah. I’m ok.