Capable of feeling?

[Lindsey14]

Sometimes I question if I'm even capable of finding love or loving. I'm afraid some time that I don't truly love my family when I know I do. I know I care but sometimes it's hard to feel....Is it normal? Or am I just messed up

[IheartDogs]

You're not messed up, Lindsey14. Depression and anxiety have a way of blunting all feelings so it's not unusual to feel you don't love someone. Your heart loves but your mind doesn't let you. Hope you feel better soon.

[Hidden]

I think it’s quite normal, you can sometimes get a bit numb to life. And spend so much time analysing and guessing everything it spirals out into every little thing until you don’t know whats up and down anymore! I sympathise. Have you spoken to your doctor or asked for counselling?

[Lakewolf]

If you weren’t capable of loving, you wouldn’t care.

It’s a head trip, and a LIE. Do NOT listen to it.

[Lindsey14 in reply to Lakewolf]

Thank you

[anxiousgirl7]

Your not messed up hun! ❤️

[Barnabas17]

You are diffidently not alone. We all (well most) have experienced this and most are not willing to admit it. My friend and I just talked about this very thing yesterday. He kids are draining her. She is completely overwhelmed. Life can be rather "exhausting" at times. NOT to mention family and loved ones, each with their own personalities and oftentimes (unresolved) issues. Then we have to blend our lives together. That can be a lot, especially when we have day-to-day stuff of our own to handle. What I've discovered over the years was that I kept a lot of stuff to myself, close to heart and inside my head. I was not much of a talker nor did I invite people into my "private space." So it took me a long time to make real friendships and even longer for me to let my loved ones see the real me. People really thought I had it together. So not the case. I loved deeply but I didn't know how to express that. Counseling helped me some. I hope you know that you were created to love and the ways in which we choose to express it is different for each of us. A beautiful book that helped me was "Boundaries." Something I grew up without and something I didn't know existed until a friend recommended it. I had no idea I was a people pleaser and wanted to ensure that everyone knew I loved them. My trying so hard was exhausting and was one of the reasons why I wanted to pull away... but again, I didn't know.