Feeling like I'm drowning

[Catmom923]

Struggling to love myself. Im becoming bitter and angry for no reason. My dad died 10 months ago as well. Idk how to know I'm enough. 😪

[Hidden]

Hi, I am sorry for your loss. Try to go easy on yourself as you are going through this rough time. We can be our own worst critics, and give ourselves the harshest treatment for no reason. I do it all the time. When it happens, I try to acknowledge the negative thoughts and feelings and then just let them slide past. All the best.

[Catmom923 in reply to Hidden]

I appreciate it. Thank you so much.

[Kingston2018]

My condolences on the loss of your father. I know there are no words that will help your sadness. I am sure that bitterness and anger are stages of grief over your loss. Think of your cat (I'm assuming you are a cat mom by your user name) and pet and play with him/her when you feel sad. Your grief will last a while, but it will lessen with time. You are a beautiful soul with so much to give.

[Catmom923 in reply to Kingston2018]

Thank you for reaching out. I appreciate it.

[Hidden]

Sorry for your loss. This coming December, it will be 3 years since my dad passed. Over the past few years it's gotten easier, but it's still tough knowing that he's gone. It just takes time and going through all the stages of grief.

In terms of loving yourself, knowing you're enough, and dealing with your bitterness and anger. 1) If you haven't already, connect with a therapist, and start working through all of those. I bet once you start diving into it, you'll start to learn, the reasons you're bitter and angry, and that you can love yourself. 2) Try to find one or two small things you can do that are productive... wash the dishes, clean your home, cook a meal, go for a walk, meditate, journal, whatever. Just doing that one thing can start to help you lift your spirits up.

Feel free to send a message at anytime. You've got lots of support here.

[Catmom923 in reply to Hidden]

I appreciate your words. Thank you. I do well for so long then I feel like i take 10 steps back. I work and try to keep busy. But I know my feelings effect my marriage and I don't want to do that either. I know in time I'll be ok.

[Kamp2020]

I'm sorry for your loss. Your still grieving and you need to give yourself time to heal. If you have a hospice office near contact them and ask for information on grieving and if they have any support groups. But keep letting us all know how we can help.

[Catmom923 in reply to Kamp2020]

I appreciate it

[Iammesues]

I’m very sorry for your loss. I lost my dad 11 years ago and am forever broken. It changed everything about me overnight. I am sympathetic and here if you need to chat

[Catmom923 in reply to Iammesues]

Thank you

[Esda]

You are enough. Your dad’s energy will always be alive. Remember the good memories w your dad.

Look deep within yourself to love yourself. It’s a journey. Be patient. Don’t fight it.

[Catmom923 in reply to Esda]

Thank you.

[Esda in reply to Catmom923]

Just to share, I found and have appreciation for The Wiser Woman. Please look into it. I recommend reading and listening to Tania Elfersy.

Pls keep an open mind. Wishing you well 🙏🏽

[Iammesues]

How are you?