Family visiting

[Flaweddesign]

So family is visiting for a week. My husband's family doesn't speak English except my mother in law. I am having mini attacks and trying to hide. I am working more but still feeling anxious and my routines are messed up and I'm having hard time coping. My mother in law never seems happy with me abd I can't communicate with rest of the family and my husband has 'I'm annoyed and you are embarrassing me' look. It's only been 3 days and it feels like it's been 2 weeks. Just venting here I'm sorry just dont know anyone to talk to about this.

[CazO46]

Hi, family visits can be difficult at the best of times but not being able to communicate is difficult . My dad is Dutch and when that side of the family visit we have to rely on him being there to translate. I've started to learn and they appreciate the effort I am making. I can only suggest that you decide how long you can be in their company and try and make that time pleasant, then go off to your room to read or arrange to meet a friend. I don't think your feelings are unusual, I love my in laws but I don't want them to stay with me! Best of luck xx

[Flaweddesign in reply to CazO46]

Ya I am trying to make visit pleasant. Just 3 weeks families visiting can feel overwhelming. Thank you for your advice, I dont have friend but I think I can go read. ☺

[hypercat54]

Hi I wouldn't try too hard to please and just let them get on with it. Maybe your husband thinks you are fussing about them too much? It does seem whatever you do it won't work so I would just leave it to your husband to sort them and avoid them as much as possible. x

[Flaweddesign in reply to hypercat54]

Ya maybe you are right, like example, I ask her what she would like to drink, she wants mix drink so I make it for her, she doesn't like it even though she picked out the mix. So I offer to grab her something else but she complains about everything I offer and she ends up just having a hard alcohol with no mixers...anyways I'll try to keep myself less fussy and be positive. Thank you for listening.

[hypercat54 in reply to Flaweddesign]

Hi perhaps 'fussing' wasn't the right word to use as it implies fault. All I meant was that when you have guests and you are anxious to be a good host it is natural to try hard. Sometimes nerves make you try too hard and we all do it. I wouldn't bother so much and get your husband to ask them what they want instead.

It seems you can't do right for doing wrong so it's easier to opt out x

[aurora31]

Hi! So I guess the main issue is trying to please others, as usual.Honey, relax. I know it's not easy, I've been there, mothers in law are, most of the time quite difficult. Maybe your husband doesn't blame you, maybe he's just as nervous as you are and so is his mother. Please don't try so hard to impress others. You are wonderful just the way you are and your husband must know that. After all, he is your husband. You are brave and you are amazing! I send you my love and hugs :)!

[Flaweddesign in reply to aurora31]

Awww that's so sweet, thank you. I needed some encouragement. My husband does try to help, it's that he has been looking forward to this for so long I just felt overwhelmed. I send you some love back!