Well today is my wife's birthday. We've hardly talked in a month and we have stopped couples therapy. I told her that I am not capable of continuing working in our marriage until I fix myself and can make a rational decision as to whether the marriage problems are due to the depression or the depression is a result of the marriage. I'm actively going to therapy, going to yoga classes to try to relax and even researching facilities to go away for 2-3 weeks to try to get help and answer that question.
So what should I do about the birthday? I thought she was going to go out of town to a vacation house as I think we both want to ignore it. But she didn't. I don't want to give the wrong impression that I'm trying to make up for something by doing dinner or gifts. She always complains about what ever I give her anyway. I've never been good at shopping or thoughtful gifts and usually do spa gift certs or things like that that she does anyway. Same with me, I'd rather get myself something rather that get something I really don't want anyway.
Sorry for the rant, just looking for opinions.
Thanks all!