Interview Gone Wrong

[SurvivingEveryday]

I have been searching for a part-time job for about a month now, with little luck. In my area there are very few jobs, and lots of competition. I am applying for things that I have not necessarily done before (I was a teacher and educator for years.)

I had an interview with a well-known hardware store chain on Wednesday. I arrived in plenty of time (early!) and was told to wait in an office- that a kindly associate led me to. I waited for about 15 minutes, no one came. I went out and asked another associate to maybe ask a manager if they were on their way. She told me that he was on his way. I waited ANOTHER 20 minutes, and no one came. I went back out, asked the same associate for help, she radioed and the manager was on his way. So, I waited for another 15 minutes and decided it was not worth the wait. I had been there or 50 minutes PAST the interview time, and no one showed up.

When I walked out I went to the Customer Service desk and asked if a manager could come up and talk to me, or if I could get a number to call and reschedule the interview. They declined, and told me that there was no manager available and they could not give out numbers "not even the store number."

I left.

As you all know, it is so difficult when we have crippling anxiety and put ourselves "out there" in stressful situations. I was nervous for two days prior to this interview, ironed my clothes several times, practiced interview questions, and even called to confirm the interview the day of! I felt disrespected and very little. It made me feel like I did not matter, and the whole time there waiting... my anxiety was brewing. I am proud of myself for not having a panic attack and being "outwardly" calm. When I got to the car, I broke down and wept for a long time before I could go home.

I just wanted to vent and share my experience. I am not looking for sympathy, but just support. It was really bad... I am desperate to get a job soon, and my anxiety and depression symptoms are almost to the point of preventing me from trying again.

[Hidden]

Hi you did well and should be proud, I used to be similar when young regarding interviews it was more before hand then at the interview id be ok same with first dates, the more I did it the more it was water off a ducks back so to speak, please try foccus on that other people are busy with there own work schedule and interviews and it's not such a big deal to them your just a number in there view so don't take it so personal they have loads to get through, and if you see them as just not that important there just people doing a job, I read if you visualise a authority figure as looking silly then it will lighten your mood and you won't see them as such a threat, best keep busy before hand too and maby look to volunteer work it will get you back out there and look good on your unemployment record, I believe in fate and the right job will come, volunteer work will build your confidence and there's no pressure to impress, sorry I'm not more helpful I've just woke up, I wish you you lots of luck and don't give up hope keeps us going well did me 🤗

[SurvivingEveryday in reply to Hidden]

Thank you so much, Panda! This means a lot to me. I actually just recently signed up to be a volunteer! Thank you for your support. I had a bit of a chuckle when you mentioned it is similar on first dates! I used to be so nervous when first meeting people for dates, and now I am so relaxed... it is odd, because I am an anxious person usually!

[Hidden in reply to SurvivingEveryday]

Haha well on the date site few years back I'd be so nervous I'd get drink at the bar get there early worried they wouldn't like me after about 4 dates or meetings with different ones realised it be me prob not liking them and they liked me or so it seemed, so I was quite blarsay in the end thinking what the heck waiste time even going but still went as had hope lol, I did give up in end and don't bother now, I'm busy with my new house, and if I did like someone you can guarantee Hel turn out to be a misogynist lol I'm happy with my possessive cat 😹🙄😁

[EndUser13]

You have good reason to be proud of how you handled things! It sucks when we put ourselves out there and get shot down, I hope this bad experience doesn't prevent you from putting yourself out there again.

Considering the way things went, you could say you lucked out in NOT working there. Better luck in the future

[Hidden in reply to EndUser13]

Hi end user good advise, how are you is it your birthday about now 🤗

[EndUser13 in reply to Hidden]

Hi Twinkly lady! I'm doing okay for an old man, I hope you are well?

[Hidden in reply to EndUser13]

That's good, but your not as old as me I'm 59 soon August couple weeks 🙄I feel 35 usually but lately feel 1o5 house move v tiring, cat woke me at 4 he's asleep now best try join in lol hope you get a good sleep 🤗😹

[EndUser13 in reply to Hidden]

You are young at heart, I like your attitude 😉

[Turnipgirl in reply to EndUser13]

It's always upsetting isn't it when you psyche yourself up to do something and it results in nothing!

[Hidden in reply to Turnipgirl]

Hi cat I think it's best to not expect anything then you won't be so disappointed, with things out your control, as long as we do our best and trust in that if it's meant to be it will work out in the long run the best outcome for us as you know and experienced yourself so many times with your job and flat search, and me too with my house sinario all worked out for the best unexpectedly, hope you have a good day and good luck with your next interview 🤗😹

[Turnipgirl in reply to Hidden]

Next interview is Monday at 10am in Cardiff Bay and we are turning it into a day out as with 10am once it's done its done then for the day rather than waiting around until 5pm like I have had before for an interview!

Last one I had was Monday just gone in Newport and their office was in a storage container and they rang me yesterday to say they were sorry but I hadn't got the job but I can't say I was upset over it though!

If the job had been offered I would have said no thank you anyway as I don't think I would have enjoyed working there!

They had asked me about health and about family circumstances in that interview which is illegal nowadays in this country and I said about Baby the cat is part of the family and how she has lived to be 19 due to being spoilt!

Say I did get offered the job and they asked me about health then fair enough but nowadays it's illegal to enquire about health before offering a job.

Yesterday I enjoyed going to my usual Thursday afternoon swim at 3pm and chatting to my friends there.

This morning I have done a load of washing and caught up with that and we are off for a Chinese takeout later on and also finish off with job hunting for the week seeing if there's anything I am interested in but if not the world won't end!

[SurvivingEveryday in reply to Turnipgirl]

Very good luck to you!

[SurvivingEveryday in reply to Turnipgirl]

It is frustrating!

[SurvivingEveryday in reply to EndUser13]

Thank you, EndUser13! I agree. I thought about it later and if that is their management, then I am better off not being around this drama!