Words Can HURT so how do you "unhear" some things...

[punkrockhippie]

this weekend i over heard "friends" and "colleagues" talk about me. i heard the stuff you are not supposed to hear people say about you .. the stuff thats really raw and hurts you to the core.. i know we all say things here and there but man o man... having a hard time unhearing any of it and since i shouldn't have heard it in the first place .. i know i can't react or stand up for myself in any way... its just bummer ... they're conversation was nothing but fun and jokes over coffee but those "fun and jokes" were really mean and just stabbing to every tiny bit of confidence i strive for... words can really hurt.. so just think about that when you happen to say something mean .. someone is always listening

[01harley]

Yes people can be so cruel. And it's so hurtful when u hear it with your own to ears. Then it's so hard to be around these people knowing what the were saying. We can't stop them though. We can just hold our heads up and go on. I wouldn't consider them my friends anymore and I sure wouldn't want to socialize. Just know your better than anything they were saying. Don't let them get u down or shake the confidence you had. Make that a building block to have more confidence.

Stay in there and don't let people get you down. There not worth it.

[punkrockhippie in reply to 01harley]

thanks so much

[fauxartist in reply to 01harley]

Absolutely 01harley...very well said....it was once said to me: 'when I go to work, I put my 'work' hat on.....that means....your at work, it's not a socializing event, or a friend seeking situation, you have a job to do, it's business. When your home...you take that hat off and be yourself. People at work are out for themselves mostly, and often engage in that kind of backstabbing behavior for their own benefit...for whatever reasons...they are not worth your time...always be diplomatic and professional with co-workers, but don't cross the line thinking you can confide in them or that they are your friends. Keep your boundaries intact and you will weather through okay...now you know a hard lesson, and I'm sorry that it happened...but now you got your work hat on.....they don't matter.

[Starrlight]

((((((((((Healing Hug)))))))))

[fauxartist]

I am sorry that happened, it does really hurt when your made fun of....I know the feeling. I hated it when it happened to me as a kid...and even about 7 years ago I overheard two of my partners kids call us 'Dumb' and Dumber’, because they were teenagers who of course know everything and grownups are so stupid....so they mistakenly think...but none the less. If you feel hurt by what they said....its maybe is in a way good to know what they really think, and you won't confide in them in future cause of their attitudes towards you. Just hold your head up and do your best, the heck with them...usually people run someone down when they feel threatened in some way, maybe your smarter than they are, or do a better job...who knows.....could be.

[punkrockhippie in reply to fauxartist]

thanx so much

[kenster1]

that's a shame that folk you trusted and respected could do that to you.standing up to these folk might not be what you want to do but I think if you do it in a constructive way then you will have the higher ground by shaming them.does your boss know what has happened.dont let them keep you down.

[punkrockhippie]

thanks so much

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Im so sorry you had to hear cruel words from people who probably don’t know your heart or mind as well as you do! So what might help is thinking to yourself ‘right they don’t really know me or my story ! Only I know that better than anyone ever could ! And replace them cruel words with beautiful words that really describe your heart xx ❣

[gogogirl]

If they are collegues- then you have a job. They are not important - meaning they do not pay your bills or put a roof over your head. As for "friends" like that- it sure doesn't sound like they know what a real friend is. I like what 01harley said!

[punkrockhippie in reply to gogogirl]

thanks gogogirl