Why do I care?

[Lostandbroken]

He constantly puts me down but the second he says he's gonna just find someone new or that he has it bothers me and I fight back to keep him. What is wrong with me? Why do I care?

[gogogirl]

Only you know the answer to that. Sounds like you deserve a lot better.

[Hidden]

Sounds toxic, sometimes we need to care more about ourselves and learn how to let people go no matter how hurtful it might feel

[Hidden]

I think sometimes we keep hoping things will change...and fear being alone, and various other things

I suspect they won’t change and the more it goes on and you continue I also suspect the worse it could get, as he will feel he can always win you over no matter what 😩

It’s really detrimental to your mental health. I would urge you to think of how it’s affecting you. I used to think I had to be with someone to be happy and I realised I was much happier on my own than with someone who was verbally abusive. It’s not easy at first, but I feel a whole lot better now 😊

You truly do deserve better, I hope you can set yourself free...

All good wishes to you, peace is a wonderful thing..🌺🌼🌺🌼

[Lostandbroken in reply to Hidden]

It's is easier with time, I just wish it would hurry up and I could just not care completely now... It's been a month already yesterday...

[Hidden in reply to Lostandbroken]

Been a month since the split do you mean ? I’m not sure if you split up..x

[Lostandbroken in reply to Hidden]

Yes the split up. However we have a baby on the way so I try to keep some communication still even though that's not even good sometimes. I shouldn't be talking to him yes I know it just feels like I'm obligated to keep him up with everything.

[Hidden in reply to Lostandbroken]

Well done you! 🌺🌺🌺

I know this can’t be easy at all..

It’s still early on in the break up,and your getting used to things and a baby on the way too, bless you. But I think you saying yourself that it’s so much harder with him around..this isn’t gonna be easy, we are all rooting for you, rest assured of that. You deserve so much and the little baby too...

Every good wish to you.it will take time , and I always find anything that’s going to be good takes a bit of a fight and a struggle to get there...you can do this !

🌺🌼🌺🌼🌺🌼 xxx

[Hidden in reply to Lostandbroken]

Lostandbroken,

Sounds like you are on the right track! We have to discover why we are attracted to certain people/behaviors. Work on yourself. He can kick rocks.

[Hidden in reply to Hidden]

Oh wait there is a baby. He won't be completely out of the picture but stay on the right track.

[Lostandbroken in reply to Hidden]

I agree to that, he needs a lot of help himself hopefully he will I just can't keep going in circles and just pushing off all the mental emotional and physical abuse he's out me through anymore I can't let that be who I am because it's not who I am..

[Hidden]

BRAVO!!!!

He is taking advantage of your weakness. Build your strength and confidence. Learn to love yourself and work on yourself.

[Lostandbroken in reply to Hidden]

Thank you😁

[Hidden in reply to Lostandbroken]

Hey, we have to take care of each other. I'm always here.

Blessings

[Hidden]

I was in a five year relationship that was very toxic and the guy was a major narcissist and always played on my insecurities

He mentally abused me for the entire time and our fights always escalated every time we got into an argument that was always “my fault “.

It ended with me physically assisting me

Be very careful cause sometimes when your in that situation it’s so hard to get out of and you can’t see the harm being done to you until you finally get out of it

Good luck to you and if you need to chat I’m here