how to overcome feeling of being ignored ?

[simple223856]

hi im abdul waheed ,, 28 years old male unmarried , its long time that since i have start thinking that kind of thoughts that im being ignored by my family and friends , no one care about me , i also use to think that people are fake they dont care about feeling , just money and these kind of things are important to them ! can anyone help

that got worse now , and im depressed all the time ...

[Greenbooks82]

I feel ignored too. I’m 36 and unmarried as well. Life is just a bit tougher doing it alone. I try to make contact when I start feeling like that.

[simple223856 in reply to Greenbooks82]

thanks for understanding ! hopefully at some stage that thing go away ....

[Hidden in reply to simple223856]

I’m married kids and I always feel ignored x

[fauxartist]

hello abdul and I'm sorry your feeling that way...I think when we are depressed we can feel like people aren't there for us...and maybe some are not...but you can change what you need to do for yourself to feel better....some go to therapy, others are prescribed meds from their doctor to help with depression, and others find alternatives to meds and find other ways of dealing with their depression. But for your own peace of mind...I would see a professional and have them help you with what direction would be best for you to cope with depression. It's a chemical imbalance, and not anything you did or aren't doing right...it's just how our brain works....'you can't just get over it', and others who don't suffer from this don't understand and often make stupid remarks about it...'like just stop thinking about it, etc'. It's not that simple...

[simple223856 in reply to fauxartist]

thanks ! its really help when someone understand the depth of our feelings , and thanks for advise too ... im really into it

[Tillyray]

Hi Abdul. I am sorry to hear you're feeling the way you are. I understand it and I know it seems hard to cope with at the moment, but with the right support you can feel so much better..

I understand how you feel as I myself suffer with anxiety and depression. I am constantly taking care of my mental health as I do my physical health because these are all connected. Thankfully these days there is a lot of support and understanding which makes it easier to get help when we need it..

when we are struggling with our emotions we can feel no one cares about us, but this is never true. Sometimes we just feel so negative that we think these things..

Try and distract yourself from the bad thoughts. If you think of one thing you like or love, instead of the bad things, this will help you feel differently about other things and change your mood.Try doing this more and more and don't allow the bad feelings into your thoughts. Do things you enjoy or find calm and relaxing- meditation, walking/exercise, a film/ dvd, baking/cooking, listen to music- treat yourself nicely and with kindness..

Talking to someone about the way you feel always really helps with all this. A family member or friend will most likely have no idea that you are feeling this way, and if you ask to talk to them about this you may discover they're very understanding and helpful. Or you might arrange to have CBT -cognitive behaviour therapy- a talking therapy which helps change the way we think about things. It ends the negative thinking to help us feel better about ourselves and life. You should be able to arrange this through your medical or counselling services.

There are also many self help books on the subject and on YouTube. There are mental health charity's on the internet offering a lot of support. Also look for groups in your local area for people going through similar things, perhaps posted in community centres, library's, universities, medical centres etc. Very best wishes x

[simple223856 in reply to Tillyray]

thanks tillyray for u r kind words .... and wishes

[amanda_alcazar]

Hi Abdul,

try talking to them and telling what you need from them. Sometimes we make the mistake of expecting that others figure out what we need, but the truth is that nobody has the duty of reading our minds, no matter how much they love us! If they still ignore you after you ask for help from them it might be time for wondering whether they are people you want to have in your life...

Anyway, if you have a depression, you should ask for professional help if you didn't do it yet. Depression deforms our perception of reality, we know that, and therefore it's not such a good idea to rely on what you think you see, because it's probably not accurate. Don't be tough on yourself, you don't deserve it. Nobody deserves it.

[simple223856 in reply to amanda_alcazar]

thanks .....