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For those of you struggling over being single for Valentine's

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Do it a self-love day. Buy yourself something delicious. Participate in giveaways and games. I was struggling over my family and a really kind page admin just messaged me i won her valentine' s giveaway box with an essential oil, lavender candle and handcrafted soap and im so happy. Such things like self-care items really help

Also i was wondering if you know any websites that i could create, write and send cards or letters to people in need of some encouragement

Thanks ❤️

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This is great, Im happy for you that you have a nice gift set coming to you ☺️

Im sorry, I wish I knew of a nice website dedicated to gift cards. I know etsy has alot of creative sellers who will create bespoke cards with personalized messages though x

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Against_the_current in reply toBrokenbeardedbear

Thanks. Dw, i just thought about writing virtual cards to send across

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Brokenbeardedbear in reply toAgainst_the_current

I see, I don't know anything like that. But its a good idea and have never thought of it. If you find a place that does that please let me know too 🌼

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Against_the_current in reply toBrokenbeardedbear

Alright 😊

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SoporRose

Oh wow!

I am glad something nice has happened to you! It's about time. Is there a bath tub in your bathroom where you can soak while the candle burns as you leisurely suds up with your soap? I do like lavender and am happy you got wome self-care goodies.

I found this list:

bradaronson.com/sending-let...

but it may be too U.S. based.

And maybe here's a job you could do when you have time?

upwork.com/hire/letter-writ...

Ruth

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Against_the_current in reply toSoporRose

Wow, thanks Ruth, you're the best! Actually I don't have a tub but still it's nice

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SoporRose in reply toAgainst_the_current

I prefer a shower to a tub. I like having the day rinsed away. A nice bathroom makes a big difference.

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Against_the_current in reply toSoporRose

Yeah, it does. It's so nice

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Adlon57

I got used to it!🙄 last time I had a Valentines card, I was......🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔🤔

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Against_the_current in reply toAdlon57

Id honestly not get. I have enough problems with my family and mental health to deal with hearbreak and nasty people

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Adlon57 in reply toAdlon57

Nineteen! a few days later we broke up, wrong religion! What do you expect during the "Troubles"🙄

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Against_the_current in reply toAdlon57

It makes me think of that song "I was nineteen, in a white dress, when you told me im ur princess" Cinderella's dead. Something similar happened to me and it was really painful. I was nineteen - twenty and i had just escaped home because mom had a mental breakdown and i went to dad's and saw his gf was pregnant and i lost it. I needed support so i had this one online friend. He wanted me but wrong religion made him lose it over time. He wanted to drag me there and marry me and have children. Apparently in his religion you can't date, you need to marry. And I don't want to get married, leave alone get married to someone with these religious and values differences. Like i was just a 20 years old student whit broken family with mental illness where nobody believes in mental illness. I would never commit before my illness is in control. Also i have dreams. Id rather have a PhD, help people like me and spend it on myself than wash dishes and change diapers (my opinion but i know what my health can take). Apparently 17 and 19 are the worst years. I remember many celebrities made those mistakes of commiting at these agee. Recently i wrote about Halsey's bipolar and i found out her 17 story. My cousin also got married at 19 and i feel so sorry for him. Had to leave his job which was his thing because his wife got pregnant and had to start two other jobs he doesn't like. Also the relationship between him and the family is so strained because of him marrying secretly and inviting nobody. So like i say heal first. Love yourself first. Might need some Self-Love days and that's okay. Generational trauma has to end with us

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Darkhouse

I must be a weirdo, but I don't get valentines day. It's a holiday created by hallmark, candy stores, and the flower companies to sell sh*t at ridiculous prices. IT'S NOT A REAL HOLIDAY. I was scheduling my physical therapy, and they schedule all 8 visits at once, and we were going thru the weeks, and she said "Oh, if you want to skip that week, we understand". I looked at the calendar, and it was v-day?? Da f? I'm happily married and we don't even give each other cards, because they just get thrown away, what's the point? Do people just stay in their beds all day long for this made-up holiday? My mom was having a fridge delivered, same deal, "Oh, do you want it on THAT day?". Seriously, it affects people this much? I just don't understand it. If you're in love w someone, you shouldn't need a holiday to do something nice for them. And, it makes our single friends feel dreadful. How ridiculous. All for $$$, not for 💚💛🧡. Sorry about the rant, but it really confuses and angers me... But self-care is a wonderful thing on the 14th or any other day for that matter!! What a great idea for those struggling w being alone... If you're in a relationship, I say join me in not putting any more $$ in the hands of greedy corporations who's actions hurt people's feelings. If enough people just stop "celebrating" it, it will go away. Just buy that clearance valentines candy when it's 50% off... It tastes even better on the 15th, trust me lol!!

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Against_the_current in reply toDarkhouse

Just get free things when you can ;) 😁Also probably all holidays are commercial

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Lve2dance in reply toAgainst_the_current

Definitely are😁 pretty much any holiday has become commercialized. I do agree that when you are with someone you care about it should be every day you do something special.. Self care on valentine's day sounds great ❤️.

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Lve2dance in reply toDarkhouse

Plus when you just start to see a new person you are like will they get the wrong idea 💡 on valentine's day if we go out that day. I dated somebody years ago we went out on Valentine's Day after a year dating. I had to buy myself a 5 Cent single chocolate heart . He literally walked away and did not even offer. He bought himself Valentine's chocolates the day after and did not share one LOL

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Sillysausage234 in reply toLve2dance

😂

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Lve2dance in reply toSillysausage234

Yea I know it's 🎭 theater of the absurd 😂. I used the fact that he's legally separated not divorced he's divorced now, then the pandemic when it started as an excuse to not see him LOL he was selfish overall

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Sillysausage234 in reply toLve2dance

did you secretly hope he choked on the hazelnut caramel one 😂

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Lve2dance in reply toSillysausage234

Ur too funny 🤣.

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MadBunny in reply toSillysausage234

🤣🤣🤣

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MadBunny in reply toSillysausage234

youtu.be/1YZ4R1fNYzI

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Sillysausage234 in reply toMadBunny

I remember being about 9/10 and saving my last rolo for Maxine welsby 😂

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MadBunny in reply toSillysausage234

You old romantic 😂

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Against_the_current in reply toLve2dance

Lol, im sorry, that's surreal and sounds familiar. Let's buy ourselves candy this year. I hope i have money for swiss chocolate. If not, normal. And instead of dying flowers, a new plant would be perfect

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Lve2dance in reply toAgainst_the_current

U r awesome

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MadBunny in reply toDarkhouse

No youre not a weirdo. I agree- commercial🙄

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emmi331

I am so glad this brightened your day and inspired you to reach out and help others. 💗

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Against_the_current in reply toemmi331

Thanks Emmi 💗

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MadBunny

Oh bless ❤️

Same. My dad UPS’s them to me since he’s across country. No card, just a box of chocolates.

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MadBunny

And a lovely Dad🤗

A card would be nice but he’s a man of few words. We are moon sisters, alone in our own mystical world. 🪄🌝

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MadBunny

You are indeed blessed to have them 🤗xx

My therapist is really into astrology. She tells me more about my birth chart than helping me with anxiety. Maybe she’s got a part time job as an online astrologist. Idk, but she can kill an hour talking about it. It’s fun, but could probably get a personal astrologist for a lot cheaper that what she charges. 🌝

It’s a cool world to live in just very hard to explain to others. Mystical!!!!!

That’s why you’re so lovable 🤗

You are so right about ppl don’t know how to take us. Usually they read us wrong and assume we are thinking something we are not. I’m only about 1/4 of the way out of my shell today. We can be kind of stubborn about staying in the comfort zone of the shell. Probably not good but what else can a cancer girl do?

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MadBunny

Absolutely not!!!!

Awe, Pixie’s a cancer. No wonder he’s so photogenic. One is my dogs is Cancer; she’s a sweetheart too. ChowChow is a Capricorn. Yes definitely a pain in my ass.

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MadBunny

How about a bowl of this for starters, before the fish lol

Soup of the day 🤗
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Nothing_but_books in reply toMadBunny

I sure could use a nice bowl of noodle soup.

❤️ present to give myself...

Ain't that how it goes. Wal-Mart's out of stock. 🐓

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MadBunny

You sayin I'm stubborn missis 🤣

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MadBunny

I saw it in Sainsburys today. I kid you not 🤗

no my therapist did it. Told you she’s more into astrology than psychology. Love Taurus too. My moon sign is Aires. I’m on the Gemini/cancer cusp. Gemini are the twins and cancers are well, you know. Sound like a schizophrenic mess, no pun intended. :)

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MadBunny

No comment 🤐

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MadBunny

👍👍👍

Impulsive, who me? Later👍

Oh yea, sense of urgency, right there with you. Yes being photogenic and enjoying having your picture taken are two different things. That’s why I could never wrap my head around the whole selfie concept. I run as far as I can when ppl try to take my picture. Hate it! I hope Pixie doesn’t suffer from this.

Even if he is camera shy, pretty sure you’ve fixed that problem😀

Yeah, im super concerned about ppl my age and younger getting depressed over being single. We need to heal first and love ourselves first

How kind of him

He is the most gorgeous boy!😍 When I move out, i hope i can get a cat

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Adlon57

I'm too much of a complex nerd, too high brow, too much into myself, too much of a loner, don't appreciate commercialised crap like valentines day🙄🙃😴

Me too. I really want one and it would help, grandma also tells me to get one, but my living situation isn't allowing it

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