Date anxiety!

[summer1993]

Does anyone else get nervous just thinking about going out? Nothing makes me more nervous than dates! I’m talking full out sick, nauseous and all. Any tips?

[RiderontheStorm]

Hi Summer. Perspective. Just because you think it does not make it true. Great book I just read from the self help section. "You can be happy no matter what" by Richard Carlson. I have found that sexual (dating) tension can be a learned enjoyment. I think it is our nature to be nervous when one worries about acceptance. Years of counseling with multiple therapists was not as therapeutic at this book. Just sayin. Good luck.

[Marshall64]

Chances are that your date is going to be nervous too. If it turns out to be a disaster, it will make a good story.

"Nothing ventured, nothing gained".

Btw, this is easy for me to say, but I'm scared too.

[Francesca61]

Hi, Go for a walk and get to know each other that way! Buy an ice cream cone and enjoy your relaxing time together. Those were the best cause the nervous tension would melt away. What used to be nerve wracking were having the first dates at a restaurant. Who has an appetite for that and who can sit still?!

[summer1993 in reply to Francesca61]

Right!? I hate dinner dates! Thank you

[ConcernedPartner84]

Easier said than done to be sure, but I found that it eased my personal date anxiety a great deal to simply remind myself that life is unpredictable, and one cannot plan every aspect of life to be optimal for their own needs and desires. I’ve said for years that the universe tends to unfold as it should (and does so whether you want it to or not). Sometimes those anxious thoughts can be laid to rest by just recognizing that there are some things you just can’t control, and allowing yourself some room to enjoy the ride.